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Divorced In Laws

I've been planning my wedding for pretty much one month and there is already a fear settling in me, not much about the ceremony but the reception. The time when everyone is supposed to mingle and get along.

There is no divorce in my family, but my fiance (Kalani) his parents got divorced when he was 7. That was 18 years ago... and they can just not get over it. Especially his dad. His mom ended up being very successful, but becoming quite wealthy, while he lead a pretty average, comfortable life. It drives his dad nuts. Even before we announced we were getting engaged, his dad would drill Kalani for information on his mom. And the divorce was nasty, and lots of lies have been told.

His mom is a pretty nice, but fake, person. The wedding though, is being held at her house and the reception. She offered when we realized we weren't going to be able to afford a venue. Now his dad is throwing a total tantrum. I've already told him this is how it is, and that's final. He doesn't have to be there if he can't handle it. But he says he's coming. I really don't want to have to kick someone out of the wedding, especially if it's family. Anyone run into this before? Has it turned out ok??

Re: Divorced In Laws

  • palrmtpalrmt member
    100 Comments Third Anniversary 5 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry you have to deal with this.  I personally haven't had to deal with a situation like this.  Hopefully everyone can act like adults for one day.  I definitely wouldn't play into his dad's temper tantrums though.
  • em01092em01092 member
    edited December 2011
    Yep sounds like you handled it accordingly. Hopefully he will come around after he has some time to blow steam. Don't change your plans for him. Either he comes, or he doesn't. 

    How does FI's mother feel about him being there?
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  • edited December 2011
    Your fiance needs to handle his dad.  He needs to tell dad that you both love him, but that this is a day of love for you both...and he expects his father to respect the day and act like a grownup. 

    Then have a plan in case his dad is not that mature.
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  • kelseylyn517kelseylyn517 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you for all the advice, I know there will be more battles to come and I'm pretty sure after my last meeting with dad he knows his opinion is not going to change my mind and he needs to grow up... If he doesn't then I just wont have him there. Thank you for the support though!
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