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The other day I logged onto Facebook and the first post on my feed is from a friend who is getting married. Well she posted so all her friends not invited to her wedding can see what she's asking for. She posted her honey fund and stated "were already blessed with everything we need, please go check out our honey fund. You can choose which activities you want to see us do" bla bla bla. All I could think was...yikes! Let's ask all our friends, invited and not, to pay for our honeymoon. This is of coarse after she had a bridal shower.
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  • lookame3639lookame3639 member
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    Oh btw this is the same friend which has been encouraging me to have a second baby shower for my second child (7 years difference between kiddos, different sexes) she also told me that I could throw it for myself and pretend someone else was throwing it for me...
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  • lookame3639lookame3639 member
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    I face palmed when I saw it, then I read the comments and all the people encouraging it and saying they had one and it's such a great idea...my mouth sort of dropped.
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    Eek. 
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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    I have a colleague who's planning on doing a honeyfund, and she plans to tell 'everyone' this, even people they're not planning to invite to the wedding.

    I'm just side-eying. A lot.
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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  • yogablossomyogablossom member
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    omfg people who can't afford the things they want need to learn how to save up like the rest of us
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  • vulpiepopvulpiepop member
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    scribe95 said:
    As I've noticed on here, there are some people using Honeyfunds that truly don't understand how they work. You know the fees and you don't actually get the excursion - just the cash.
    I'm kind of skeptical as to whether or not they actually get the cash too or rather all of the cash that the guest/friend intended for them...I feel like it's one of those things where they take a hefty fraction of the money before it gets to the couple.

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  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    @lawhead, they do. Usually it's around 7% of the gift.
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    KeptInStitches said:
    @lawhead, they do. Usually it's around 7% of the gift.
    Thanks for the info!

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    KeptInStitches said:

    @lawhead, they do. Usually it's around 7% of the gift.


    I think honey fund takes less, like 3%. It's still money that I would rather gift directly to the bride and groom so I'll gift cash or check over a honey fund. I hate paying the middle man
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    HisGirlFriday13 said:

    I have a colleague who's planning on doing a honeyfund, and she plans to tell 'everyone' this, even people they're not planning to invite to the wedding.

    I'm just side-eying. A lot.

    Aside from the rudeness, why on earth do people think that people they don't invite to the wedding will be like "gee, we should really help fund this couple's vacation, even though they are rudely asking for cash and clearly we aren't close enough to to get a wedding invitation because they are just that awesome."
    Don't worry guys, I have the Wedding Police AND the Whambulance on speed dial!
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    NYCBruin said:
    I have a colleague who's planning on doing a honeyfund, and she plans to tell 'everyone' this, even people they're not planning to invite to the wedding. I'm just side-eying. A lot.
    Aside from the rudeness, why on earth do people think that people they don't invite to the wedding will be like "gee, we should really help fund this couple's vacation, even though they are rudely asking for cash and clearly we aren't close enough to to get a wedding invitation because they are just that awesome."
    Word. This whole thing is stupendously rude. 
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  • pinkshorts27pinkshorts27 member
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    Because it isn't worth starting a new thread about, but I found an old friend's wedding website because I was curious about what she put on it (she has been posting non-stop about her wedding on facebook). I found this little gem (paraphrased)

    "Proper wedding attire required.
    Men = dress pants, dress shirts, ties optional. 
    Women = dresses or dress skirts, dress slacks and blouses. 
    No Jeans, sweatpants, t-shirts 
    wedding is invite only, we hope you understand. 
    adult wedding, no one under 21 invited."

    ETA: @grumbledore   The other day you were asking for entertainment. Same girl who posted on facebook. 

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    A "friend" of mine on FB keeps posting her daughter's gofundme account for her wedding and honeymoon.

    Ugh.  I don't know who I judge more.  The daughter who created a gofundme account so that people can "contribute" to her wedding and honeymoon.... or her mother who is posting the account all over FB.

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    blueeyes90 said:

    ETA: @grumbledore   The other day you were asking for entertainment. Same girl who posted on facebook. 
    Is she also having a cash bar?

    ETA: Edited for privacy. :)
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    DaisyMaeMommy said:
    blueeyes90 said:
    Because it isn't worth starting a new thread about, but I found an old friend's wedding website because I was curious about what she put on it (she has been posting non-stop about her wedding on facebook). I found this little gem:

    "Proper wedding attire required.
    Men = dress pants, dress shirts, ties optional. 
    Women = dresses or dress skirts, dress slacks and blouses. 
    No Jeans, sweatpants, t-shirts 
    wedding is invite only, we hope you understand. 
    adult wedding, no one under 21 invited."

    ETA: @grumbledore   The other day you were asking for entertainment. Same girl who posted on facebook. 
    Is she also having a cash bar?
    No clue. I didn't score an invite. But she was the one that was throwing a fit on facebook. Mentioned her in an earlier thread.  I wouldn't put it past her.



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    Way too easy to find out who, what, etc on google. I suggest you modify you post, @blueeyes90 before their website has some unwelcome visitors or postings.
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    NYCMercedes said:
    Way too easy to find out who, what, etc on google. I suggest you modify you post, @blueeyes90 before their website has some unwelcome visitors or postings.
    DaisyMaeMommy can you modify yours as well? In light of recent events. 

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    Done and done! Good call @NYCMercedes!
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    NYCBruin said:
    I have a colleague who's planning on doing a honeyfund, and she plans to tell 'everyone' this, even people they're not planning to invite to the wedding. I'm just side-eying. A lot.
    Aside from the rudeness, why on earth do people think that people they don't invite to the wedding will be like "gee, we should really help fund this couple's vacation, even though they are rudely asking for cash and clearly we aren't close enough to to get a wedding invitation because they are just that awesome."
    I have no idea. I actually have two colleagues who are doing this, one heterosexual and one same-sex. The same-sex couple is arguing that they 'have to' travel for their wedding because our state (PA) doesn't allow same-sex unions.

    Well, yes, that's true. But we live 70 miles from the Maryland border, and Maryland *does* allow same-sex marriage. You *have* to travel, but you don't *have* to have your wedding at Trump Towers in NYC.

    They have a gofundme for their wedding. And a honeyfund. 
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    DaisyMaeMommy said:
    Done and done! Good call @NYCMercedes!
    Thank you both!

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