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What is the proper way to address invites for a church wedding?

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edited April 2014 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
My FI and I are having a church wedding and I'm confused as to the 'rule' on written numbers v. numerals. I was always under the impression that for a more formal event, you wrote out the date and time, but the address of the location was in numerals. But now I'm being told that there should be continuity, and either write everything out or use all numerals. (FWIW, the person telling me this also put registry info on their wedding invites, so I'm taking it with a grain of salt.)

I wasn't able to find a definitive answer anywhere, so I thought I'd ask E, seeing as you ladies know everything...



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What is the proper way to address invites for a church wedding? 46 votes

Saturday, the thirteenth of September, Two thousand and fourteen, St. So and So's Church, 1234 Name Street, City, State
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Saturday, September 13, 2014, St. So and So's Church, 1234 Name Street, City, State
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Saturday, the thirteenth of September, Two thousand and fourteen, St. So and So's Church, One Two Three Four Name Street, City, State
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I don't care, just feed me cake
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I like to click things
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Re: What is the proper way to address invites for a church wedding?

  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    edited April 2014
    The bigger deal, of course, is 'honour of your presence' vs. 'pleasure of your company.'

    But Miss Manners does it:

    Saturday, the thirteenth of September, two thousand fourteen (no 'and') [also, the year is optional] at St. Whosits of Wherever's Church, 1234 Holy Road, Anytown, State.

    ETA: Also, I like cake.
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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  • lennonkdclennonkdc member
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    Thanks @HisGirlFriday13! 



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  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    Cake! Cake! Cake!

    Wait, what flavor? And how much sugar is in it?
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  • lennonkdclennonkdc member
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    We are having 3 flavors, lemon with raspberry filling, white cake with raspberry filling and chocolate cake layers with chocolate ganache, raspberry filling all with Italian meringue buttercream icing. 



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  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    Nom. I'm inviting myself for the lemon cake.
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  • Cookie PusherCookie Pusher member
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    We're having white cake with French creme and raspberry filling! Mmm...raspberry...
    ~*~*~*~*~

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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    I am also inviting myself for cake. After I go to @chibiyui's wedding and have milkshakes.
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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  • Peaseblossom55Peaseblossom55 mod
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    mmm... cake.....

    Saturday, the thirteenth of September, Two thousand fourteen, St. So and So's Church, 1234 Name Street, City, State

    I also used the honour of your presence in the invitation and the favour of your reply.... for the invitation and reply card. PM if you want to see my copy

     

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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    Our cake has three layers: white cake with lemon cream filling, chocolate cake with chocolate cream and raspberry puree filling, and white cake with mandarin orange filling. We will be having one slice from each tier!
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  • lennonkdclennonkdc member
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    Peaseblossom55 said:

    mmm... cake.....

    Saturday, the thirteenth of September, Two thousand fourteen, St. So and So's Church, 1234 Name Street, City, State

    I also used the honour of your presence in the invitation and the favour of your reply.... for the invitation and reply card. PM if you want to see my copy

     

    I went with 'honor' b/c we already printed invites once for the old ceremony venue, (RSVP were more casual) and I am trying to keep costs down, I know it might not be Miss Manners approved but I'm stressed out enough right now, so it is what it is...



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  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    Sorry I totally derailed your thread into cake, @lennonkdc.
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    The "u" in honor and favor is optional for Americans now, so that iis not a problem.
    I can't vote in your poll because none of your examples are correct.  No abbreviations are allowed, including "St."  Saint must be written out in full.

    The honor of your presence in requested
    at the marriage of
    Bride's Full Name
    and
    Groom's Full Name

    Saturday, the thirteenth of September
    two thousand fourteen
    time o'clock

    Saint So and So's Church
    1234 Main Street
    City, State

    Is this a Catholic wedding?  Will there be Mass?  That makes a difference.
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  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    Eh, you need the time of day on the invitation.
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  • chibiyuichibiyui member
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    HisGirlFriday13 said:
    I am also inviting myself for cake. After I go to @chibiyui's wedding and have milkshakes.
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    Anniversary
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    Turtles!!! What no turtles??? ;-P
    :kiss: ~xoxo~ :kiss:

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  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    lennonkdc said:
    We are having 3 flavors, lemon with raspberry filling, white cake with raspberry filling and chocolate cake layers with chocolate ganache, raspberry filling all with Italian meringue buttercream icing. 
    Unsolicited advice - I would have one of the three not have raspberry filling.  I know a surprising amount of people who cannot eat raspberries or can't stand raspberry filling.  (I, on the other hand, would want a small slice of each!)



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  • lennonkdclennonkdc member
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    CMGragain said:

    The "u" in honor and favor is optional for Americans now, so that iis not a problem.
    I can't vote in your poll because none of your examples are correct.  No abbreviations are allowed, including "St."  Saint must be written out in full.

    The honor of your presence in requested
    at the marriage of
    Bride's Full Name
    and
    Groom's Full Name

    Saturday, the thirteenth of September
    two thousand fourteen
    time o'clock

    Saint So and So's Church
    1234 Main Street
    City, State

    Is this a Catholic wedding?  Will there be Mass?  That makes a difference.



    It will be a Catholic ceremony with a full Mass, how does that change the invitations?



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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited April 2014
    The honour of your presence is requested
    at the Nuptial Mass for
    Bride's Full Name
    and
    Groom's Full Name
    as they are united in The Sacrament of Holy Matrimony
    Saturday, the thirteenth of September
    two thousand fourteen
    time o'clock
    Saint So and So Catholic Church
    1234 Main Street
    City, State

    @HisGirlFriday13, is this correct?
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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    CMGragain said:

    The honour of your presence is requested
    at the marriage of
    Bride's Full Name
    and
    Groom's Full Name
    as they are united in The Sacrament of Holy Matrimony
    Saturday, the thirteenth of September
    two thousand fourteen
    time o'clock
    Saint So and So Catholic Church
    1234 Main Street
    City, State

    @HisGirlFriday13, is this correct?

    Spot-on!

    But I prefer 'Saint Whosits of Wherever' or 'Saint Whatshisnuts of Wherever.'

    Which is irreverent but amusing. At least to me. :)
    Anniversary

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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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  • lennonkdclennonkdc member
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    Thank you! I hope I can make that all fit the invitations we picked out already....

    CN - we booked everything for our wedding before I heard the call back to my faith and became confirmed in Feb, then had to rearranging everything which is obviously worth it, but rearranging a whole wedding four months out is pretty stressful! We've already bought invites on VP, so I'm hoping to have to only order the invitations and not the whole shebang, or worse have to pick out new ones...



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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    Welcome back to the church!
    Anniversary

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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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    lennonkdc said:

    Thank you! I hope I can make that all fit the invitations we picked out already....

    CN - we booked everything for our wedding before I heard the call back to my faith and became confirmed in Feb, then had to rearranging everything which is obviously worth it, but rearranging a whole wedding four months out is pretty stressful! We've already bought invites on VP, so I'm hoping to have to only order the invitations and not the whole shebang, or worse have to pick out new ones...

    Congrats :)

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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    I think that is beautiful! 

    VP is super friendly, and often, to get a line to fit, you just have to make the font a teeny bit smaller.  I had to fit Millian Memorial United Methodist Church on my daughter's invitation!  You can break up a line to make it fit if you need to do that.  Just don"t break up "Sacrament of Holy Matrimony" or "Nuptial Mass".

    My pastor told this in church on Sunday:

    A priest, a Baptist preacher and a Methodist minister met in town.
    "How is it going?" asked the minister.
    "Wonderful!" replied the Baptist preacher.  I baptized four new members into the church last week!  We have been working hard for the Lord.  How about you, Father?"
    "Oh"said the priest, "I don't want to brag, but we received six new members into our parish last week!  Six!  And you, Reverend?"
    "Well, that is great news!" replied the Methodist minister.  "That is just wonderful.  Last week I got rid of my ten biggest trouble-makers!"

    :-D
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