The wives of two of our groomsmen did not attend my bridal shower and did not even bother to RSVP. I held a baby shower for one of them and have driven an hour many times to attend children's birthday parties, etc. I am annoyed because I don't feel like they are supporting our relationship by not being there. The best man said he didn't even know I was having a shower even though my sister emailed him asking him something about it (he never responded). My fiancé said he didn't expect them to be there but I don't feel that is right. I don't feel like he has my back by just letting it slide. Am I crazy to expect the spouses of the bridal party to attend the wedding related functions?