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Flipped the mother/daughter relationship yesterday

Mom has been sick since about Friday last week.  I was concerned but she was still acting like Mom.  However, when I called her on Tuesday, she didn't sound like she was breathing right.  I quizzed her pretty hard, but she insisted she was okay, she thought she was over the hump and needed to get her energy back.  Then, DH calls her on Wednesday, calls me and says he's concerned about her breathing.  I said enough was enough  and called our family PCP, who gave me a 4:00 appointment for her.  Then called Mom and told her I was picking her up at 3:30 to take her in.  She didn't argue with me.

When I picked her up, my heart sank you guys.  I seriously considered just taking her to the hospital, but I knew if she needed to be admitted, the PCP could do that faster than the ER.  She was super pale, her skin looked like tissue paper, couldn't speak w/out coughing and moving super slow.  Get to the appointment and she has a temp of almost 103 and heart rate of 126 bpm.  

So, she has pneumonia.  But, we caught it right before the NP insisted she go into the hospital.  She had a breathing treatment right then and immediately looked much better (color coming back into her face) and started breathing better.  Then they gave her a steroid shot and one of those nasty antibiotics shots.  Poor mom, she was so sick and so exhausted that she just started crying.  I kept it all together and the NP gave me a huge hug and said that if I'd let her wait another 24 hours she would've been headed to the hospital in the ambulance.  Dad's having a pretty good guilt trip, but honestly, she was in bed and even if he had asked her, she would've insisted (like she did to me) that she was going to be okay and to leave her alone.  I can boss her around pretty good w/out getting too much grief since I get to go home afterwards...Dad has to live with her and he would've gotten grief.

She's sooo much better this morning and is sleeping w/out pain which is good.  I had to call and wake her up twice in the middle of the night for her inhaler treatment which I was hesitant about doing, but did anyway.

Apparently, my super powers are walking drunk in stilettos and bossing the hell out of my mother.  :D

Re: Flipped the mother/daughter relationship yesterday

  • Aw, V.  I'm glad she's feeling better.

  • GBCKGBCK member
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    I'm glad you pushed it.  Man, that role has to be tough though.
  • Go, go Super V.  I'm glad you intervened and mama V is doing better.  ::high fives and back pats:: 
  • Way to take care of your mama, glad she got the help that she needed!
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  • lovemyrunnerlovemyrunner Nebraska member
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    Awesome job!  As soon as she is feeling better (not 100%, but strong enough to walk around safely) make sure she does a few laps around the house each day.  It helps expand the lungs and helps you to cough up any mucus.  Most patients just want to lay in bed til they feel better (totally understandable) but you'll actually get better quicker if you get a little activity in every day! 
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  • VarunaTT - I hope your mom is feeling much much better! Glad you insisted she go and that you took her! I completely get your concern and would have done the same thing. In fact I had to insist that my mom go to the ER back in January on multiple occassions for the very same reason -but they didn't catch at is pnuemonia until about 3 1/2 to 4 weeks into it. She ended up being admitted and told me a few nights later that on the night she was admitted she didn't think she was going to go home ever again. Such scary scary stuff!
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