I need some help on a +1 issue! As discussed on here many many MANY times if the person invited is over the age of 18 and is in a relationship then the SO must be invited. Is there anywhere that states this? I feel if I say "well the girls on theknot.com community boards say so" I may not be taken seriously! (no offense of course!)
If you want to read the background to the question I will post that here;
My cousin is getting married in September and my mom was just talking to her brother about it and he mentioned that my sisters BF may not be invited because they have to make cuts somewhere. My sister is 20 and has been with her BF for 3 years.
This family is VERY well off but this issue is more based on size restrictions as they are hosting it at their summer lake house in Maine. My aunt loves to explain proper etiquette to others.
-I sometimes say "Me and soandso" instead of "soandso and I" (which is wrong....) so she makes sure to scream at me "YOU SOUND LIKE A F*CKING REDNECK IT'S 'SOANDSO AND I!!!!'"
-When their oldest got married I almost didn't get an invite for my BF at the time (now my husband) after 3 years of dating and was the age of 22. When they finally said I could bring my BF, my aunt told my mom "Well if Bubblegum is getting an adult invitation she is expected to bring her own gift and not tack onto yours. I am just telling you this so you know proper etiquette" (just graduated college and still looking for a job while both B&G were lawyers... but me bringing a gift was so very important!)
-meanwhile years ago at my sisters Bat-Mitzvah my aunt demanded that her oldest daughter's BF was invited (together about 3 years and around the age of 22....),and he was invited.
Background wasn't necessary, but wanted to share why we are so mad. My mom is pretty BS right now and I said I would ask you girls!!! So again, is there an etiquette book/website/or something cool I have never even heard of out there that states this??!?!?
I received my save the date for this wedding last night, and asked my mom if they got theirs. She said they received one for herself, my step dad and my 20 year old sister. My mom called my cousin to ask about sister's BF of over 3 years (note:longer then the B&G have been together) and she explained they had to make cuts somewhere.... that anyone not engaged or married didn't get a plus 1. Even living together doesn't qualify and that this cut off helped them cut 20 people from their list! They are being incredibly rude to 20 people they "care about"!!!
I am so mad about this, because we had rented a vacation house 2 minutes away for the 6 of us to have a mini vacation. I guess my sister and her bf are still going but looks like they will stay at the rental while we are at the wedding. It totally sucks because I love hanging out and partying with my sister, but I support the stand she wants to make. Another reason why it irks me is that this whole family met her BF at my wedding in September and AGAIN in December when he came to my Nana's funeral and sat Shiva with us. He is obviously a part of our family... ughhhh.