Name on Invite question

pipeTsquared · April 2014

We have 2 friends who have recently got married (yay)

They have the same surname (very common surname in these parts)

Before getting hitched they would have been Mr John Smith and Mr James Smith

Do I put the same now

Or

Something like (we are talking about the outside envelope)

Messrs Smith

Messrs John and James Smith (Or would that be James and John?)

Mr and Mr Smith

SammiNJonni · April 2014

Miss Manners used the example the Misses Doe when addressing a couple so I would think Messrs Smith would be your best bet.

I may be wrong in my interpretation though so if anyone else wants to look at pg 191 and correct me please do.

HisGirlFriday13 · April 2014

I would do either the second or the third. Messrs Smith looks to me too much like they're brothers, not husbands.

Messrs John and James Smith would be fine, as would Mr. and Mr. Smith.

As far as who goes first, I'd probably list whichever friend I was closest to, or if I'm equally close, I'd go alphabetically.

My father's cousin and his partner got married just before our wedding, and the partner took his name, but I addressed the invitation to Mr. John and Mr. Bob Smith, because 'John' was my cousin, even though 'Bob's' name came first alphabetically, if that makes sense.

pipeTsquared · April 2014

Thanks @SammiNJonni and @HisGirlFriday13

Two different answers - this gets me no where

But Thanks to the name order thing HisGirl - I'll do the one I know better first

SammiNJonni · April 2014

I would use what hisgirl used for hers since the answer I gave does sound like you are addressing brothers the more I think about it.

pipeTsquared · May 2014

Okay @SammiNJonni thanks

@Schatzi13 - ahh now you say different

Why is this so complicated!

tabathafaye · May 2014

I have never heard of Messrs until today.

Yay for learning something new!

VulgarGirl · May 2014

I'd go with @hisgirlfriday13, I'd never heard Messrs until now either and it looks like messers to me. Which I'm not sure what that it is but it sounds like messy.

We're doing Mr. & Mr. or Ms./Mrs. & Ms./Mrs. for our various married gay people who now share a last name.

theartistformerlyknownas · May 2014

Why don't you ask them how they'd like to be addressed? I agree this likely doesn't have a standard yet. They probably wouldn't be offended whichever way you addressed them, but may love to give input.

pipeTsquared · May 2014

@MagicInk and @tabathafaye

It is oldfashioned granted but I actually like it as the plural of Mr. Have you never seen/read Harry Potter?

@Iolo883 I maight just do that

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