Hello ladies. I am new here and looking for some input. I was widowed in November 2012 after my husband's 18 month battle with cancer. I have 2 children who are now 11 and 8. I met an amazing man last July and we just became engaged. He has 2 children 8 and 3 (will be 4.5 at wedding). I adore his kids and he and my kids have really bonded. We are all in agreement that he isn't there to replace their dad but they get twice the love in their lives. My question is what to do about kids while preparing on day of wedding and at reception. Has anyone hired a "kid wrangler" for lack of better terms. I have a nephew who will be 18 and I though about having (paying) him keep track of making sure where the kids need to be and when so that I could focus on getting myself ready and they would have way more fun with him anyway. I also thought about having him be the point person of contact for the kids at the reception. I trust my 11 and 8 year old to behave themselves, for the most part, with just him keeping track of them and letting them enjoy the day of our families joining together. His 8 year old tags along with whatever my two do so he could just stay with them. The 3 year old is my concern on several levels. She has developmental delays and attachment issues to daddy. She is absolutely adorable and I love her but I just envision her screaming the whole way through the ceremony because if she is more than 2 feet from daddy she drops to the floor in a tantrum. No exaggerations there. Daddy is working on not picking her up every time she does this but it's slow going since she is daddy's little girl. The plan is for her to walk down with my daughter, who she loves, and to sit with FI parents but I can't stop thinking about her seeing him and screaming the entire time. It would hurt him for her not to be there and I can appreciate that. I am sure that after ceremony we will have her go back to her mother's house because she couldn't handle the reception. Any advice on either of these thoughts??
Thanks!