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morning after brunch start time?

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Hello Ladies!

Question about brunch starting time... It will be in the hotel where everyone from OOT is staying, and it will be buffet-styled. What time should we start it at?

My ideal first thought was 10am because I like to sleep and will probably go out after the reception to a bar with friends, etc. However, then I thought about my parents / his parents / grandparents who get up early / people who need to leave early to drive home or take their flights (ie, most of the ppl invited to the wedding) and thought 10am would be too late.

So then I decided on 9am. But then I looked online and people were saying 9am was way too early to start brunch. Huh? 

What are your thoughts / experiences?

Thanks :)
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  • antotoantoto member
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    Ours started at 11ish I think.  You wont want to be bouncing out of bed too early after your wedding!  And frankly most of your guests wont want to either.
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  • redwoodoriginalredwoodoriginal member
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    antoto said: Ours started at 11ish I think.  You wont want to be bouncing out of bed too early after your wedding!  And frankly most of your guests wont want to either.
    -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- That's what I was thinking, but I     know our parents  and grandparents get up like 6am, maybe 7am on a late morning, regardless of when they went to bed, so I'm wondering if they'll be super huffy puffy about a late start time... and if it really matters if they are...
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  • JessicaB387JessicaB387 member
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    Mine was 9am - 11am.  I like to sleep in too and we didn't get to bed that night until around 4am, but that's ok - it's only one morning and we relaxed later that day!  I know that the parents/grandparents appreciated the start time because they are all early risers no matter what, and when people have to travel home I think they like to get the brunch out of the way.  Also, it was a buffet and somewhat informal so people could come in later and it was no big deal.  My bridesmaids/friends didn't show up until at least 10 so they slept in a little later and still had plenty of time to sit and eat! I don't think 9am is too early.
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    My friends had a breakfast coupon for the OOT guests.  They just made their way to breakfast in the morning, when they were ready.  Were you interested in having everyone all together again or could you just let people who want breakfast grab it from the hotel's restaurant at their leisure.  So that way, the guests can eat during whatever time the hotel's breakfast is for.
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  • JennyColadaJennyColada member
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    Usually when I meet for brunch it's 10 or 10:30.
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    If anyone needs to eat breakfast at 6 or 7am, they can eat then, and then brunch at 11 can be their lunch.
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  • indianaalumindianaalum member
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    I think I did mine at like 9 or 10. I think it worked for everyone. It's not a requirement to attend, so if the time doesn't work for others, they can simply jjust skip it. I kinda assumed some of our younger party crowd wouldn't attend, but they still showed up
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    I don't think I'd start earlier than 10am.  Most likely I'd start at 11am.
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  • singinchick13singinchick13 member
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    If it's a buffet you can start it a bit earlier for these people if you like, say 9:30, and then don't plan to arrive yourself until maybe 10 (if this is ok? not sure if that's considered rude or not). Honestly it really depends on your crowd and what you would prefer yourselves. I think 9am for a brunch is a little early - none of the restaurants near me that serve brunch open until 10. Personally FI and I probably won't start ours until 10 or 11am because our entire wedding party will be hungover and want to sleep in.
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  • BlueBirdMBBlueBirdMB member
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    We didn't have one, but everyone stayed at the same hotel and breakfast was included… I think we showed up around 10 am after dragging ourselves out of bed.  I've never before felt like I had a hang over without actually having an alcohol hangover.  I digress, when we got there at 10 am, most people were there from our group.
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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost member
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    antoto said:
    Ours started at 11ish I think.  You wont want to be bouncing out of bed too early after your wedding!  And frankly most of your guests wont want to either.
    I agree.  I have hated having to get up to attend a 9am brunch after other ppl's weddings- I had to go meet FI's extended family so this wasn't something I could opt out of- and there is absolutely no way in hell I plan on getting up before 10am- just waking up- after my own wedding ;-)

    ETA: Your parents and grandparents can get up at the crack of dawn and have breakfast if they wish, but if they get huffy because the bride and groom don't get up to join them after their wedding, that's on them.  You aren't obligated to entertain anyone the day after your wedding, and people should really understand that or get over themselves.

    Like @lolo883 said, the early risers can get up and have breakfast on their own, and then join everyone else for brunch later in the morning.

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  • ei34ei34 member
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    What time is hotel check out? It'd be tricky if brunch was going on while guests were supposed to be packing up and checking out.
    That being said, anything before 10am I consider breakfast, not brunch.
    We didn't have an official next morning event but the hotel we stayed at offered full buffet breakfast from 7-11am. Hubby and I went down around 8am and hung out with some of our early-rising guests, and we were there until 11 with some of the late-sleepers.
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  • delujm0delujm0 member
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    We are calling ours a breakfast...it's a buffet at one of the hotels where we have a room block.  It's from 9-11am.  It's more of a drop in-drop out kind of thing because we know people are going to be preparing for long drives/flights that day so we wanted to get it done early.  Most of our guests will leave at 11 and immediately head to the airport or start on the 8+ hour drive home.

     

    it kind of depends on when you anticipate your guests leaving town.  If it's going to be a long drive/flights to deal with you may want to start on the early side.  If most people are only driving a few hours and would probably stay until the afternoon, an 11am start wouldn't be unusual.

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