Mom asking me to have my sister as a bridesmaid

MJackson16 · May 2014

My wedding is still two years off and my mom keeps asking me to have my sister as part of the wedding party. My problem is that I have already asked all the girls I want to be in my wedding party. I didn't ask my sister because one she has absolutely no personal hygiene whatsoever. And she is slowly going blind so she wouldn't be able to see to walk. Is there something else I can ask her to do that would help me out just as much?

AddieCake · May 2014

MJackson16 said:

My wedding is still two years off and my mom keeps asking me to have my sister as part of the wedding party. My problem is that I have already asked all the girls I want to be in my wedding party. I didn't ask my sister because one she has absolutely no personal hygiene whatsoever. And she is slowly going blind so she wouldn't be able to see to walk. Is there something else I can ask her to do that would help me out just as much?

If your wedding is 2 years away, you shouldn't even be worrying about who is in the WP. Your mom does not choose your WP, either. What do you mean "help you out"? If you want her to be included, she can be a bridesmaid, reader, usherette, or singer. Those are really the only roles.

coffeekay · May 2014

You get to choose your wedding party.

That said, if I found out my sister didn't want me in her wedding party because I was going blind, I would feel absolutely terrible. Asking me to do a job at the wedding wouldn't make me feel any less terrible.

Also, going to the wedding as a guest is an honor.

mysticl · May 2014

MJackson16 said:

My wedding is still two years off and my mom keeps asking me to have my sister as part of the wedding party. My problem is that I have already asked all the girls I want to be in my wedding party. I didn't ask my sister because one she has absolutely no personal hygiene whatsoever. And she is slowly going blind so she wouldn't be able to see to walk. Is there something else I can ask her to do that would help me out just as much?

Because no blind person has ever been able to walk on their own.

Like PPs said you get to choose your wedding party but not choosing someone because they are going blind is pretty petty. As for her personal hygiene could your mom help her out with that for one day?

NYCMercedes · May 2014

Because she is going blind, she won't be able to see to walk, so you don't want her to be a bridesmaid in two years? Color me dumbfounded.

buttercup1958 · May 2014

wow you are a great sister...

kmmssg · May 2014

Not buying this in the least. I am calling troll and not spending anymore time on it. Blind people live alone and navigate alone all the time. A straight walk down the aisle - oh gosh how would she do that?

KGold80 · May 2014

You could ask her to be your guest book or gift table attendant. While both are shit jobs, at least they would be less offensive than not having her as a member of your wedding party because she is going blind. You should be ashamed of yourself.

Jen4948 · May 2014

Her going blind is not a reason to not make her a bridesmaid. I would never exclude someone from my bridal party over a physical disability. That's just plain cruel.

Nor is it anyone's job other than your FI's to help you out-not even your bridal party members'.

CMGragain · May 2014

MJackson16 said:

My wedding is still two years off and my mom keeps asking me to have my sister as part of the wedding party. My problem is that I have already asked all the girls I want to be in my wedding party. I didn't ask my sister because one she has absolutely no personal hygiene whatsoever. And she is slowly going blind so she wouldn't be able to see to walk. Is there something else I can ask her to do that would help me out just as much?

Yes, you do have a problem. Asking your friends to be your bridesmaids more than two years before your wedding is just begging for bridesmaid drama. What were you thinking? You will be back in about a year and a half, whining about the girls who aren't really that close to you anymore, and asking us how you can kick them out of your wedding.
As for your treatment of your sister, ugh. Sorry she doesn't measure up to your personal standards.

singinchick13 · May 2014

My FI is colourblind, does that mean he shouldn't be allowed to have any input on our wedding colours?

buttercup1958 · May 2014

Oh and btw I may go blind due to my glaucoma. If I believed in violence I would love to kick your ass. Your sister deserves better

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

The only problem you have is one of selfishness and prioritising aesthetics over relationships. If you solve that problem, the rest will all go away, too.

Angusaur · May 2014

I'm going to ignore the blind comment because I think you're full of MUD.

That said - lurkers - do not ask people to be in your WP 2 years out. Relationships can drastically change in those 2 years.

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