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How many is too many?

allisonlandy9allisonlandy9 member
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I just got engaged a week ago! I have 6 friends and my cousin I would like to ask to be my bridesmaids. Is 7 too many? Also I was thinking about having 2 MOHs but my Mom said she didn't think people do that :/
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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    allisonlandy9 said:

    I just got engaged a week ago! I have 6 friends and my cousin I would like to ask to be my bridesmaids. Is 7 too many? Also I was thinking about having 2 MOHs but my Mom said she didn't think people do that :/

    1. Do not ask anyone to be in your wedding until about a year before your wedding. You cannot unask someone whom you've asked to be a BM.

    2. You may have as many BMs or MOHs as you wish. Your mother's opinion is irrelevant.

    3. Remember that each person you ask will mean additional costs in terms of flowers and gifts and RD invites and whatever else.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    First, slow down. Don't ask your wedding party right away. You can have as many as you want, and that includes MsOH. But again, unless your wedding is less than a year away, WAIT to ask.
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  • Grabows14Grabows14 member
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    More bridesmaids = more drama; but it's your wedding and you know the girls. So whatever you feel is comfortable to have by your side is YOUR decision. 

    If you are not sure who of the 7 you really want, think of it this way: who would you call if you needed help burying a body?

    Also I would wait < 8 months to the wedding to ask, just in case you become less close with your friends (as many brides have had issues with before on the knot)

    Congratulations! and I hope the planning process is a memorable and great one!! :D
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  • thelastdreamerthelastdreamer member
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    Unless you're going to have a really short engagement wait a little bit to ask. I asked my girls right away but we're having a fast engagement. I second the PPs who said a year in advance AT MOST. 

    Having more than one MOH is fine. Your marriage will not be invalid because there are two MOHs. I am having a maid of honor and a matron of honor.

    Finally, you can have as many as you want. Seven is on the higher end but I've been to weddings with 10 or 12. Do whatever you wish. But don't make your groom come up with seven just to have even sides because that's dumb.
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  • allisonlandy9allisonlandy9 member
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    Thank you everyone!  
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  • ei34ei34 member
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    Congrats on your engagement! Ditto PPs re waiting until you're 9-12 months out to ask, and keep in mind that more BMs = more expenses (BP gifts, bouquets, more people invited to the RD).
    Having two MOHs is very common. I had two, as did my sister, and 2 of the last 3 brides whose weddings I've attended.
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