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windie · May 2014

so i know this is just dumb because people are NOT required to get us gifts but... my shower is this saturday and i keep looking at the registries (mistake #1) and the only things that are off it are the 2 items we've already recieved in the mail.

i know that this is TOTALLY not something to be upset/disappointed over! i feel so selfish and childish! i think my problem is that one of my main love languages is gifts - i LOVE to give people things and i don't do it to get anything in return, but i feel so special when someone gives me something. i have a horrible memory, but i can tell you who gave me most any item i recieved as a gift!

(i know i'm asking for trouble) but can ya'll give me a [kind] reality check? or maybe let me know that i am not alone?

chibiyui · May 2014

Are people local, they might be last minute shoppers. Also, if it's not local, people might bring cash or off registry items.

windie · May 2014

the shower is local, and so are most all the guests (a few are about an hour away)

ddvirts · May 2014

You might just get a lot of gift cards

ArtTeacher23 · May 2014

People might just wait to the last minute. I had at least 3 gifts that were bought the morning of my shower (gotta love Bed Bath Beyond's gift wrapping station!). I wouldn't worry to much about - just enjoy the day & the company.

dluberts · May 2014

I haven't gotten anything off my registry. Also my stepmom told me that no one will buy me anything off of it because no one will want to spend that kind of money on me

windie · May 2014

dluberts said:
I haven't gotten anything off my registry. Also my stepmom told me that no one will buy me anything off of it because no one will want to spend that kind of money on me

That's a horrible thing for her to say! Shame on her

priceisright07 · May 2014

I keep checking mine too, and nothing has been purchased( my shower is tomorrow night) But I have had a few people ask me. i figure they will shop tomorrow orjust get a gift card

tammym1001 · May 2014

I had a lot of last minute shoppers at my shower too. I think most of them went on Friday night. A lot of my gifts showed up in Macy's complimentary gift bags. LOL

FutureMrsN3312 · May 2014

Stuff was bought as soon as the shower invites went out. Then the morning of I was still registry stalking (I know...I know...) and a ton of stuff was still on there. I was like "OMG what are we going to do at a shower with a few gifts to open"

A lot of stuff wound up not coming off the registry and I got a LOT of giftcards and cash.

Apparently FI's friends/family thought giftcards and cash were easier to travel with. Makes sense but it's not like they were carrying this stuff over the bridge lol

windie · May 2014

you ladies are all so sweet

thanks for the reassurance and that i'm not alone

priceisright07 · May 2014

I had my shower tonight. My regstry said 3 things were purchased, but I only got one of them at the shower. LOL I guess the other ones are coming a s wedding gifts.

ddvirts · May 2014

You know, opening gifts at the shower was my least favorite part. It was so awkward opening gifts in front of everyone, especially that I already knew what to expect, since we registered.

windie · May 2014

So the two items that were gone from the registries were given at the shower & then things not on the registries. There was only one gift given that we really don't need (set of 4 drinking glasses) that we didn't register for but the thought was very sweet.

I guess the reason I was initially upset is not because I didn't think people would get us stuff, but just that if we are going to get gifts, we'd get things we actually wanted.

Is it wrong to hope people stick to the registries (or gift cards) for the wedding?

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