My FH and I are paying for our own wedding. My parents are helping out where they can, but they're going through some financial harships. My FMIL and FFIL don't want to help us out financialy because, well, it's a long story. Needless to say, our wedding budget is under five grand. Total.
My parents recently suprised my FH and me by paying for a ceremony and reception venue for us. It's nothing fancy, just a civic hall in historic downtown, but it will look great with a bit of decor and it can accomidate our 150 guests.
When my FMIL saw photos of the hall she freaked. She kept going on and on complaining to my FH about the white cenderblock walls, the fact that it's not fancy enough, etc. He is the eldest grandchild/nephew and she keeps telling me that it's very important that his wedding be a big deal, and reminding me that they have a lot of very rich relatives and she doesn't want them to think that we are having a 'poor people' wedding.
My question is this; can I tell her (very, very nicely) to sit down and shut up because a) we aren't made of money, b) the hall is already paid for, and c) they aren't helping contribute to the cost? Or is she actaully making a valid point? Should I be worried about what his rich relatives will think/say?