I am not sure how to feel about this. Okay, no that is a lie - I do know how I feel but I just don't know how to fix it. My FI went and bought his wedding ring without even telling me. And i'm really hurt!
A month back or so i started asking him if we could look for his. I did make it clear that I wanted to be the one o really get it for him. After all he put a lot of thought into mine and all, yet I still asked him to start the process with me so I could get a basic idea of what he liked. (After all, asking my friends is how he picked out mine!) Anyhow we did this, with a minor disagreement that he didn't see the point in buying a ring made out of a precipitous metal. Which i do get, but expressed that I felt like that was him getting cheated almost. Its his dang wedding ring. I have no issues spending a bit more on something he will wear the rest of his life.
So, we get distracted and a few weeks go by. Then at lunch with friends if how I find out he has already had is ring ordered and delivered without saying a word to me about it. A $15 dollar ring from some obscure site. He even got the next size up too to keep around just in case he "gets at someday." Ouch. his leads to a large fight. I tried to explain to him that I was hurt way more than mad. The rings and what the symbolize means a lot to me. I really though that had bee clear from the start. And while he id sincerely apologize for hurting me, stuck to his guns and want to use the one her go. Tired of the whole thing I have in. Just didn't not want to fight any more.
Another weeks has gone by and I still can't shake the feeling of this really sucks. the rings he bought are still sitting on his night stand and I hate looking at it. And Now I'm still hurt and worried of what it will feel like to put THAT ring on his finer he day of our wedding. I worry the significance of it will be lost on us both. So.. what now? I have tried really really REALLY hard to not be a bridezilla at any cost here. Seem it done, not pretty, I don't want that to be me! So I wonder if it is worth bring up again, or do I just let this slide. Suck it up and all that?