Hello!
So far my wedding planning has been going pretty smoothly, however we have some issues regarding the bridal shower. So my parents are contributing 100% to the wedding, for which I am very grateful. My fiance does not have a great relationship with his mother so she has only been involved minimally in the planning (one of my bridesmaids is my fiance's eleven year old sister so when it came to picking out her dress, I invited his mother. This is the extent of her involvement and she is fine with that). There will be 120 guests, which includes only family from both sides.
The issue we are having is with the bridal shower, my mother and my sister are hosting the shower and my mother would like to keep the guest list to only our side of the family. This is due to cost and number of people. If she invited everyone, it would be like 50 people and basically be like throwing a small wedding. She is hoping to let his side take care of a shower if they would like to.
I am concerned because I don't expect anyone from his side to host a second shower, I would be absolutly fine with not having a second shower. My only concern is that most people expect there to be a shower and I do not want his extended family, like his aunts and cousins to feel left out or simply thinking that mother did not invited them. Am I overthinking this? Would you be offended if you were invited to the wedding and not the shower? Do you have any suggestions on how to handle this?
Thanks for your help!