I need to rant big time!! I am not one to complain about much but this wedding is totally overwhelming and getting way out of control. My FMIL which I love dearly by the way keeps adding people to the guest list every time I see her. She buys "stuff" for the wedding which I never said I wanted and now I have no idea what to do with it.
OK...here is a little back story.. this is my second marriage but his first and he is a mommys boy no doubt about that. So he has always got what he wanted and has never had to tell his mom NO about anything.
Now we had decided that the guest list was set at 280 (which he of course denies now) well our list has grown to close to 340 people and that is not including us and our wedding party of 15 (which i never wanted that big of a wedding party either). When I bring this up to my FI he basically tells me to deal with it and make it work because he is not cutting any of the over 200 people on his side. (yes he has approximately 215 and I have 125). We have already figured out tables and centerpieces and bought all the decor for the 35 tables and I refuse to buy anymore. I feel like this is not that hard to understand...or is it just me?? I never wanted this big of a wedding but I gave in on some aspects of the wedding to make him happy. Big regret now. I told him and his parents that my parent would not be helping a whole lot due to the fact that I was married before and had the big wedding. So all that cost would be on me so we needed to make it some what affordable. Well that has all went out the window.... now I feel like it is his and his moms dream wedding instead of OUR wedding. I down right refuse to cut people off my list because I have already done that once and he had not cut anyone from the start. There are people on his list that he has never met and/or don't know, but because they are his parents friends they have to be on the list along with his dads cousins that he has never seen.....I am at my wits end here and feel like I don't have any say in anything with out running it by his mom first....Please give me some advice on this one....Am I turning into a Bridezilla????