3 person couple

[Deleted User] · May 2014

Just wondering.

Has anyone seen/done a 3 person couple in a bridal party? Adult couples. Not Junior bridesmaids/usher or ring boy/flower girls as I've seen hat done before. But I have never seen an adult 3 person couple be in a bridal party before.

My mom always told me it had to be even couples (2 people) so that when taking pictures you had equal amounts of people standing at either side of you and you and your groom were centre of the picture.

Just wondering if this is something new and what peoples opinions oare of it.

ei34 · May 2014

When you say "3 person couple" I picture three adults in a relationship.
If you're asking if I've seen three people walk down the aisle together, yes I have. I've seen two GM and one BM, and I've seen the reverse. It didn't look weird at all, nor do photos of uneven bridal parties. So I disagree with your mom's opinion.

[Deleted User] · May 2014

Yes sorry I should have clarified. Yes 3 people walking down together. I want to have the siblings as a grouping. I have a brother and my FI has a sister and a brother.

I was just afraid my brothers GF would get offended as she is not in the wedding party.

I should probably add that my FI's Sister is my Brother's ex. as that might change opinions. At least it has from the people I have spoken with.

Maggie0829 · May 2014

My one BM walked back up the aisle (once the ceremony was over with) with two of H's GMs. It did not look weird. Also even sides is not an issue. I had 2 BMs, H had 5 GMs. A good photographer knows how to make things look "even" or balanced with an uneven wedding party.

If your brothers GF gets offended that she is not in the wedding then that is her issue. You don't have to include her if you don't want to.

And as for the whole ex thing. I am sure that they can be civil for one day, but if it were me I wouldn't purposely put them in a grouping together because that is just asking for unnecessary drama from both your brother, the ex and his current GF.

ei34 · May 2014

Was your brother and FI's sister's split amicable? Or drawn out and painful? I'd ask the two of them...if they're comfortable walking up and down the aisle together (it should take a minute or so), then they could walk together with FI's brother. If they're uncomfortable doing that, your brother is also fine walking solo. Sibling comfort definitely takes priority over aesthetics.

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

I've seen 2BM/1GM and 2GM/1BM combinations at weddings, and I never once thought it was odd.

At my brother's wedding, two of his childhood friends fought over who got to escort my mother down the aisle, and it ended up that they both did, so there was my teeny-tiny Mama between these two tall, hulking men, and it still looked fine.

And WP sides do not have to be even. Tell your mother that. Your photographer will know how to pose people that they're balanced-looking even if there are uneven numbers.

That being said, while I think your heart is in the right place with the siblings, I think you're inviting drama by having the ex-GF be paired with the ex-BF when the current GF is in attendance.

OTOH, if their split was amicable and your brother and FI's sister are OK with it, the current GF's feelings have no real bearing on it.

Jen4948 · May 2014

There is no requirement that the couples be paired off man-woman, man-woman. You can have one man escort two women or two men escort one woman, or even all three be the same sex.

But if your brother and FSIL are not comfortable walking together, don't make them. As for your brother's current GF, there is no requirement that she be in the wedding party.

hlpopper · May 2014

I don't think it's weird at all. I'm doing 4 BM's and 1 GM. I personally think having the odd numbers or uneven amount looks kind of neat. And if having 3 people walk down together looks weird to you or if you're afraid that it may cause unnecessary drama, just have them walk down the aisle separately or have the GM's stand next to your fiance at the beginning and only have you BM walk down the aisle.

STARMOON44 · May 2014

Why can't they just walk down the aisle one by one?

[Deleted User] · May 2014

I will ask how they feel about it. Their split was his descision. She has since attempted to get back with him succeeded once but he shortly broke it off with her. She hasn't tried anything since he has been dating his Current GF of 3 years.

I will ask and see what they both say about the situation

Istoleahalo · May 2014

My first wedding I had 4 girls and he had 3 guys. The last guy just escorted my last 2 girls and it worked just fine

CC0805 · May 2014

I'm just a teenaged dirt bag baby, listen to iron maiden baby with me

ok, got that out of my system

Yes, it's perfectly fine to triple it up. For my best friends wedding it was myself, her sister-in-law and his best friend walking in together. We had a blast with it all night.

[Deleted User] · May 2014

Or someone can walk alone if the aisle isn't wide enough for 3. Or everyone can walk down the aisle alone. I was a groomswoman once and walked down the aisle with a bridesmaid. Also, a "couple" is 2, there is no such thing as a 3-person couple.

QueerFemme · May 2014

Have them walk single file. Women have somehow learned to walk upright unassisted. They don't need an escort. Problem solved.

vk2204 · May 2014

I had more girls than guys in our WP, so one of the groomsmen escorted two bridesmaids down the aisle.

MyNameIsNot · May 2014

I've known a three person "couple" who were in a polyamorous relationship, but they never had cause to walk down the aisle together during a wedding.

The people who walk down the aisle during your ceremony are not couples. They can be man-woman, woman-woman, man-child, man-woman-man, single person, whatever. They don't make out at the end of the aisle.

Wedding parties are not about even sides and they certainly aren't about matching up your friends in cute couplings or matching sides. As long as everyone gets to the end of the aisle and back, it's fine. Your mother is ridiculous.

Aray82 · May 2014

I was one of two bridesmaids when the groom had three groomsmen. I walked with one guy, and the other BM walked in the middle of the other two. NBD. We won't be having even sides either.

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