Two best men

Re: Two best men

• manateehugger member

  

  May 2014 edited May 2014

  They don't really have any duties except to stand there and maybe hold the ring or be a witness for signing the marriage license. 

  
  

  It's fine to have two best men. No one except your FI and his brother and friend and you will even remotely care. 

  
  

  That said, your FI should pick who he wants. 

  

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• KatWAG member

  

  May 2014

  Marianpingree said:

  What does anyone think about the idea of having two best men? My finance can't decide between his brother (out of obligation) and his best friend (because that's who he really wants) to fill the roll. His mother is placing a lot of stressful pressure on him to pick his brother. I told him to have them split the duties and title them both the best men! Has anyone else done or seen this before?

  
  What duties? There are no duties involving being a best man. My H had 2 best men. It was perfectly fine.

  Sounds like your fi needs to grow a back bone and stand up to mommy.

  

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• phira member

  

  May 2014

  My partner didn't want to decide between his two brothers, so they're both his best men. One of them will do a toast during the reception, and the other will do a reading during the ceremony. That's pretty much it. The best man doesn't really do much else besides (if he'd like) plan the bachelor party, which is something that can of course be done by two or more people.

  
  

  Either way, your fiance needs to do what he wants, and not cave to his mother.

  

  now with ~* INCREASED SASSINESS *~
  
  

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• Bubblegum5586 member

  

  May 2014 edited May 2014

  phira said:

  My partner didn't want to decide between his two brothers, so they're both his best men. One of them will do a toast during the reception, and the other will do a reading during the ceremony. That's pretty much it. The best man doesn't really do much else besides (if he'd like) plan the bachelor party, which is something that can of course be done by two or more people.

  
  

  Either way, your fiance needs to do what he wants, and not cave to his mother.

  My husband is from a family of 3 brothers and when his middle brother got married first he asked both brothers to be his best men, and they both gave speeches. When the middle brother got married again he again asked both brothers to be his best men and they both gave speeches again. When hubby and I got married he asked both brothers to be his best men and they both gave speeches (although the one he is closer with - the oldest -  stood next to him, held our rings and signed our Ketubah). I would assume the oldest brother will also ask both brothers when he get's married, but I guess we'll see!

  
  

  ETA: In both weddings for the middle brother the brides had 2 MOH's, I am not sure if they did this because it worked out that way or because they thought they had to to keep sides even. I only had one MOH because that's all I wanted.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• Megalega14 member

  

  May 2014

  my fiance has two best men and I have a matron of honor, and man of honor. I'm not worried abut it at all
  

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