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XP: Best Man Can't Make It

ChloeaghChloeagh member
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Just found out that FI's BM can't make it to the wedding. He got a job in Korea that he can't turn down and has to be out there first week in June. He's been FI's best friend for 9 years. He and I went to the same college, and even went on an abroad trip together, so we have been close friends for 3 years. We are his two best friends, so he's just as upset about it as we are, if not more.

FI's other BM (he picked two) will be walking my MOH down the aisle, and my bridesmaid will probably walk alone behind them. Does that sound good?

We still want to include the missing BM in the program. What should we put? "Honorary Best Man?" I don't want to just put "Best Man" because I feel like that would be confusing when there is only one man up there.
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  • JaxInBlueJaxInBlue member
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    I think this is one of the few cases where it is okay to have an honorary attendant.  It's not something  you are doing to slight him, or to create tiers in your bridal party, it really is meant to honor an absent person.

    As for walking, your plan sounds good.  I think your other options would be to have them all walk singly or to all walk together.  Maybe see what they are comfortable doing?
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  • artbyallieartbyallie mod
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    I would still list both as "Best Man" in the program. You can put a note about why he's not there or not. People likely won't notice or will already be aware of the situation. If I saw more attendants listed than were standing I wouldn't be all that confused and I would dwell on it anyway. I'd probably figure, "oh, that person must be military or had something else come up that was unavoidable; I'm not close enough to them for it to be my business either way."
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  • ChloeaghChloeagh member
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    artbyallie said:
    I would still list both as "Best Man" in the program. You can put a note about why he's not there or not. People likely won't notice or will already be aware of the situation. If I saw more attendants listed than were standing I wouldn't be all that confused and I would dwell on it anyway. I'd probably figure, "oh, that person must be military or had something else come up that was unavoidable; I'm not close enough to them for it to be my business either way."
    Really? I know I would definitely notice. And the only people that will know about it are our parents and the priest.
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  • artbyallieartbyallie mod
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    Then put a note in the program with whatever amount of detail he's comfortable with regarding why he's absent. But leave him as Best Man. That's what he was asked to be and what he still is, though the circumstances are outside his control.
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  • phiraphira member
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    Agreed--this is the kind of situation where honorary attendants make sense.
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