I am livid, devastated and humiliated. This seems like a good forum to serve as a sounding board!
My fiance and I postponed our wedding.
In a nutshell, his parents - specifically his mother - convinced him to do it. I really feel compelled to go along with this decision.
Here's some back story. Advice would be appreciated please.
We got engaged in November on the beach in San Diego at sunset. I decided it would be fabulous to get married also on the beach at sunset in San Diego! My fiance agreed. We come to San Diego with his family every year for Thanksgiving, so I suggested we do it this year in November. He vehemently stated that he didn't want to wait that long when I suggested it. So we planned a San Diego wedding in July of this year.
We are Catholic. I have been married before and divorced. That marriage has not been annulled in the catholic church yet. I have just not started the process. All along this has been openly communicated to my fiance and he has been fine with getting married by an officiant, while working on the annulment. Then the plan was to get our marriage blessed by the church after we are married and my annulment has gone through.
His parents have known that we are getting married in San Diego in July for months!!!
We sent out Save the Date cards last week. We were working actively to secure a very large beach house to hold our wedding and small gathering afterward/reception. Very casual, elegant, intimate. We only invited parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts/uncles.
His parents "had questions" yesterday, so he went to their house to discuss these questions. I did not go; I really did not see any of this coming. However, he said last evening that his parents suggested we postpone the wedding untill after I got my annullment from the Catholic church for my first marriage. I initially blew that off; I said "well that ship has sailed. If they had reservations, they should have voiced those months ago." However, then my fiance went into a barrage of reservations about holding the wedding in July, suggesting we hold it in November! I suggested that at the beginning, and he did not want to. But now it's a good idea because his parents suggest it?! Also, he pointed out that he suddenly feels "weird" about having a non-Catholic officiant do our ceremony.
In the end, I agreed to postpone the wedding, mainly because all the joy has been sucked out of it because of these reservations of his, and frankly because of his parents' meddling.