Just received emailed "thank you"

KGold80 · May 2014

While certainly better than not saying thank you at all, my coworker just sent a mass email "thank you" to everyone who contributed to his communal wedding cash gift. He didn't bcc either, so I now know precisely who contributed...and who didn't.

Jen4948 · May 2014

To give your co-worker the benefit of whatever doubt there is, he may not have known exactly who did and didn't contribute, so he was trying to make sure he thanked everyone.

But I agree that he shouldn't have done so via a mass email for exactly the reason you listed in your post.

chibiyui · May 2014

Hunh,. How does your office normally do this? FI sent out a similar email for his office, but he sent it to like, everyone that showed up.

When I gave him side eye, he said usually there are only verbal thank yous. *shrugs*

KGold80 · May 2014

He didn't send it to everyone, so he knew based on who actually signed the card. Had he sent it bcc or to each individually I wouldn't side eye quite so hard.

chibiyui · May 2014

Yeah, he should have bcc it.

Artemischief · May 2014

chibiyui said:

Hunh,. How does your office normally do this? FI sent out a similar email for his office, but he sent it to like, everyone that showed up.

When I gave him side eye, he said usually there are only verbal thank yous. *shrugs*

@chibiyui Don't you mean DH, you married lady?

chibiyui · May 2014

Artemischief said:

chibiyui said:

Hunh,. How does your office normally do this? FI sent out a similar email for his office, but he sent it to like, everyone that showed up.

When I gave him side eye, he said usually there are only verbal thank yous. *shrugs*

@chibiyui Don't you mean DH, you married lady?

OH SHIT YOU'RE RIGHT! DAMN YOU MUSCLE MEMORY!

Rebl90 · May 2014

Yeah, that was poor taste.

OH BTW @chibiyui - congratulations!!!

cupcait927 · May 2014

Yeah either he should've BCCed that list or just done individual thank yous to people.

And @chibiyui Congratulations!! Where's our recap and some pics?!

mellyD2014 · May 2014

Yeah, I have to say that's pretty normal in my office, too. We often host baby showers and bridal showers for our co-workers and since not everyone can often attend (but most sign the card and/or contribute to whatever gift is given) group-wide emails tend to be the way to go. I don't think I'd side-eye it either.

Bubblegum5586 · May 2014

For my wedding gift from the office where I wasn't 100% sure who contributed, I wrote a nice hand written thank you card and put it in the break room.

ashleyep · May 2014

I've only ever gotten email thank yous from work showers. That doesn't bother me, but I would have either emailed everyone who attended or BCC'ed those who contributed/signed the card.

We don't have a break room to put a group card in and handing out thank you cards in the office just seems odd to me.

chibiyui · May 2014

ckel24 said:
Yeah either he should've BCCed that list or just done individual thank yous to people.

And @chibiyui Congratulations!! Where's our recap and some pics?!

I was thinking about waiting till I got some pics back from the photographer to do a recap cause yay pro pics. I do have some pictures floating on Facebook (seriously, being able to see pics of us the day after is/was fucking awesome)

[Deleted User] · May 2014

My team at work had a shower for me for my wedding. It was nice, cake & a card with gift card. Due to our schedules and seat locations, it wasn't practical for me to hang up a hand written thank you card nor to pass it around to everyone. We had 20-30 people on the team at the time, it would have taken a month for the card to get passed around. So after receiving a gift I sent out an email to the whole team thanking everyone for the cake & the gift. I didn't do individual emails because I couldn't read half of the signatures on the card so I didn't want to mistakenly leave someone out. Now the rest of my wedding gifts that I received at my wedding, I sent out hand written notices for.

larrygaga · May 2014

How soon are you supposed to get a thank you? I haven't yet recieved one from that shit wedding I went to more than a month ago. They went on their honeymoon right after, so I figure they get to tack on an extra week.

KGold80 · May 2014

larrygaga said:

How soon are you supposed to get a thank you? I haven't yet recieved one from that shit wedding I went to more than a month ago. They went on their honeymoon right after, so I figure they get to tack on an extra week.

I think within 6-8 weeks is pretty standard? I won't let ours go longer than 2-3 weeks.

BTW...I should be clear that I'm not side-eyeing the emailed thank you so much as the failure to BCC or send individual emails. I still think it's nicer to send a handwritten note even when the gift is from a group of co-workers, but evidently I am in the minority here.

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