I haven't posted on this board before, but I'm not sure many others on the other boards would understand. I'm a very tall (6ft) plus sized girl, and I'm getting married in October. I don't have a dress yet.
I made an appointment last September at a store that specializes in plus size brides. The day before the appointment, we received notice that the government was cutting our program and initially we were told we were going to lose our jobs in a few months (thank you, sequestration!). Needless to say, I wasn't in a place emotionally (and I wasn't sure if I was in a place financially) to buy a dress that day, but I went through with it because my family came from all over to join me. Combining that stress with the saleswoman's reaction of "see, you're not THAT big" when I tried on my first dress and it zipped up, I haven't been shopping again.
I was recently at an event with some men from the Middle East, and one of them offered me a cookie. I didn't want to be rude, so I accepted. He then proceeded to ask me what I was doing to lose weight. I said "nothing" to try to change the subject when in reality I've been trying to lose some weight for the wedding, but he kept following me around, lecturing me on the dangers of being overweight. This one stupid guy's opinion shouldn't matter at all, but I got really depressed about it. Most of the time I can pretend other people aren't looking at me and judging me, but that guy crushed my delusion.
Now I'm in danger of running out of time to get a dress. I just sucked it up and made an appointment for next week. I wish I could look forward to dress shopping the way my friends did for their weddings, but I don't view it as a fun experience. It's yet another opportunity to be judged on how I look. Sorry for this long vent, I've needed to get this off my chest for a while, I guess. Thanks for listening, ladies.