I haven't been on here in forever so bear with me if this isn't the right board.
My friend is engaged, has been for over a year, and can't seem to set a date. Her FI is jobless right now and is trying to get into the career he wants to be in. This means he may end up taking a position out of state, or perhaps not. They haven't set a date because of this as well as their obvious budget issues and lack of funds.
However my friend goes and looks at reception sites, photographers and dresses quite often. She was lamenting to me that a reception hall she looked at didn't have nearly enough dance floor space for the 130 people she plans to invite. I tried to explain to her that her rationale was very cart-before-horse but she disagreed.
I recall being told on here that a date wasn't "yours" till you had something booked for it. Does it work the same the other way around? Can you pick everything out if you have no date? Should I try to help her or is it a lost cause? She is so stressed about some things but the most important one, the date, seems to be missing.