wording and question about reception cards

Fran1985 · May 2014

Hi All,

If I am having a reception at a different location then I don't say reception to follow on the invitation right? I need a separate card?

Also this is the wording I am thinking of- can you guys look it over? Thank you! Also the invites want to use the & symbol instead of writing out "and" but I feel like that is not proper.

Together with

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe and

Mr. and Mrs John Smith

Frances Marie Doe

and

James Daniel Smith

request the honor of your presence

as they are united in marriage

Saturday, the twenty-fifth of October

two thousand and fourteen

two o'clock in the afternoon

St. Albert Parish

1100 Main Street

Town, State

and then for the reception card I was just going to put "reception to follow" and the address.

Gizmo813 · May 2014

You can say, "Please join us for a reception immediately following the ceremony." And then list the address. But yes, you would need a separate reception card to let guests know the location / address of the reception.

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

No 'and' in two thousand fourteen.

I would separate the parents' names
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
and
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

But that's an aesthetic choice for me, not an etiquette choice.

Otherwise, looks good!!

CMGragain · May 2014

Who is hosting your wedding? Will it be a full mass ?

CMGragain · May 2014

If your parents are hosting:

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

Mr. and Mrs John Smith

request the honour of your presence
at the Nuptial Mass uniting

Frances Marie Doe

and

James Daniel Smith

in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony

Saturday, the twenty-fifth of October

two thousand fourteen

two o'clock

Saint Albert Parish Catholic Church

1100 Main Street

Town, State

If you are hosting your own wedding ;

The honour of your presence is requested
at the Nuptial Mass uniting

Frances Marie Doe

and

James Daniel Smith

in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony (etc.)

Your invitation is a simple, formal note from the HOSTS to the guest stating who, what, when and where. It is not an honor to be on an invitation, only to receive one.

Fran1985 · May 2014

CMGragain said:

Who is hosting your wedding? Will it be a full mass ?

It is a full mass. Should it say nuptial mass? I have never seen that.

As I learned this weekend, apparently there is a little debate on who exactly is hosting... I explained the hosting does not equal paying, but I think there is going to be a big push to get the names on there.

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

Fran1985 said:

CMGragain said:

Who is hosting your wedding? Will it be a full mass ?

It is a full mass. Should it say nuptial mass? I have never seen that.

As I learned this weekend, apparently there is a little debate on who exactly is hosting... I explained the hosting does not equal paying, but I think there is going to be a big push to get the names on there.

It could say 'nuptial Mass,' but does not have to. Ours did not. The fact you're telling them it's in a church is enough; the full Mass is relevant only to Catholics who might want to attend Confession before receiving Communion or who want it to count as their weekend Mass obligation.

CMGragain · May 2014

I would let the parents have the hosting honors, like in my first example. You don't need hosting credit because as the bride and groom you will get enough attention from everyone anyway.
Now, about the reception - is it in the church all, or is it in another location? If it is in a different location, you need a separate reception card. If it is in the church hall, "Reception to follow can" be printed at the bottom of your invitation.

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

I respectfully disagree with CMGr. If your parents, or your FI's parents, aren't technically hosting, they don't get hosting honours listed on the invitation.

While paying =/= hosting, demanding credit for something you did not do is still rude and petty.

But it's your decision whether you want to die on that hill.

Fran1985 · May 2014

HisGirlFriday13 said:

I respectfully disagree with CMGr. If your parents, or your FI's parents, aren't technically hosting, they don't get hosting honours listed on the invitation.

While paying =/= hosting, demanding credit for something you did not do is still rude and petty.

But it's your decision whether you want to die on that hill.

I don't think they even want to host. They just want their names on the invites. I had the together with their parents language but my mom asked if there was anyway to list out the names. They have been really chill the whole time so that was my compromise in the OP- I think I will list them out but not have them inviting people to the wedding. I realize that its not the most traditional language but I think that's a small tweak- its not like I'm going to do the "please come witness their love, their passion, their everlasting undying bond as they speak the vows of eternity." (I seriously saw very similar suggested language on minted haha)

Thanks for all the help as always. Its getting to the point in planning where I feel like everyother decision I am making I am saying "good thing I have been reading the knot!"

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

Fran1985 said:

HisGirlFriday13 said:

I respectfully disagree with CMGr. If your parents, or your FI's parents, aren't technically hosting, they don't get hosting honours listed on the invitation.

While paying =/= hosting, demanding credit for something you did not do is still rude and petty.

But it's your decision whether you want to die on that hill.

I don't think they even want to host. They just want their names on the invites. I had the together with their parents language but my mom asked if there was anyway to list out the names. They have been really chill the whole time so that was my compromise in the OP- I think I will list them out but not have them inviting people to the wedding. I realize that its not the most traditional language but I think that's a small tweak- its not like I'm going to do the "please come witness their love, their passion, their everlasting undying bond as they speak the vows of eternity." (I seriously saw very similar suggested language on minted haha)
Thanks for all the help as always. Its getting to the point in planning where I feel like everyother decision I am making I am saying "good thing I have been reading the knot!"

Ugh. That would annoy me, and I'd probably fight it, but that's me.

I did fight DH's grandmother on wanting to have her son, DH's father, but not his mother (they're still married, obtw) listed on the invites. I was like, 'Uhm...they're not even INVITED, let alone hosting, so, no, they will not be named on the invite and that's ridiculous.'

She wanted 'DHFirst Last, son of [Parents], grandson of [her and late grandfather]. I was like, 'Yeah, this is a wedding invitation, not a damn genealogy project.'

KatieinBkln · May 2014

Not to hijack this (very useful) thread, but...can someone explain to me what exactly "hosting" means? Does it mean paying for everything? Being generally in charge? I'm at a loss here and figure I should probably get it together before the time comes to make my own invites.

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

KatieinBkln said:

Not to hijack this (very useful) thread, but...can someone explain to me what exactly "hosting" means? Does it mean paying for everything? Being generally in charge? I'm at a loss here and figure I should probably get it together before the time comes to make my own invites.

Hosting =/= paying. AT ALL.

The 'hosts' of the wedding do the following:

-- Issue the invitations

-- Receive the RSVPs

-- Receive the guests at the reception

-- Attend to the guests' comfort at the reception

-- Generally, make a speech thanking the guests for attending

It's entirely possible for people to pay without hosting, or host without paying, although the former is more common than the latter.

KatieinBkln · May 2014

@HisGirlFriday, thank you! I have been seeing the "Hosting =/= paying" thing over and over, which left me wondering what else it means. Now I know.

CMGragain · May 2014

I really do not understand why the parents want to have their names "listed" on the invitation. The invitation is not the proper place to "list" anyone! It makes your parents look very AWish, and it makes you look like you don't understand wedding invitation wording. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.
Given the further information, I would recommend the second wording I gave you, but you have to deal with your parents. It does not honor your parents to list them on your invitation. Personally, I would be very embarrassed to see my name on an invitation for an event where I was not hosting. Good luck!

Fran1985 · May 2014

CMGragain said:

I really do not understand why the parents want to have their names "listed" on the invitation. The invitation is not the proper place to "list" anyone! It makes your parents look very AWish, and it makes you look like you don't understand wedding invitation wording. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.
Given the further information, I would recommend the second wording I gave you, but you have to deal with your parents. It does not honor your parents to list them on your invitation. Personally, I would be very embarrassed to see my name on an invitation for an event where I was not hosting. Good luck!

There is really nothing to deal with. They asked politely, and I will think about it. I don't think they look like attention whores at all, some people just don't traditional wording. But I appreciate all the responses from everyone, and I am excited that I found invites that I like

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