Laying around while stuff needs to get done

themuffinman16 · May 2014

I have had the worst day, today. I have all of these projects that need completing... topping the list is mailing out the invitations. Unfortunately, I am just laying on the couch doing absolutely nothing. Fuck endometriosis. My stress level has been so high, worrying if I have enough time to complete all that needs to be done before the wedding, that it triggered a terrible war with my endometriosis, this month. I was in the shower for 45 minutes. I almost had to ask FI to help me out of the shower. Almost. For me to get to that level, it;s pretty bad, because I don't like an audience when I am sick. I was trying to work on the invitations but the dizziness from the pain forced me to stop.

I just don't have time for this, right now. I messed up so many invitation envelopes, I just decided to save the rest for another day. I only have ten spare envelopes, now. I just hate when my world stops because I get so terribly sick, and there is no escape. It happens every month; some months are worse than others. I have to keep my stress level down, but the wedding is just a lot of stress.

lc07 · May 2014

I am so sorry to hear that you are dealing with this. That sounds absolutely terrible. I have no experience with the disease that you have but I am glad to hear that you are resting. Sometimes it's hard to do but it just makes more sense to take a step back and heal before you try to accomplish a task. You will be able to get it done much more quickly when you are feeling well.

Is there anyone that you can ask to help you with the invitations? It's hard for me to ask for help unless I NEED it. So I do understand not wanting to ask for help, but I bet there are people in your life who would absolutely love to help you.

themuffinman16 · May 2014

I have finished the invitation envelopes, now, except for three (addresses I am still waiting on... ARGGGHH!. I just have to add stamps, stuff them and take them to the post office. But I am working all this weekend, so it probably won't get sent out until tuesday. That is my cutoff date, I just wanted to mail them a little earlier, that's all. My sister is my go to person for help, but she is having a baby in two weeks, and I hate to burden her when she has so much she needs to do before the baby comes. I will be fine, tomorrow, I am just mad that I lost a day of doing stuff

lc07 · May 2014

Yay! The envelopes are finished. Tuesday is your cut-off date and it will be a-ok that they go out that day. Promise.

I've dealt with a different type of illness and stress than you have over the past few years, and I set a rule for myself that if it wasn't something that would still be a problem for me 3 months down the road, then I wasn't allowed to let it get me super upset. If it WAS something that would be problem for me 3 months down the road, I needed to ask for help or I was genuinely allowed to worry about it. I know that sounds a little weird but it helped me quit sweating the small stuff, and I hope it helps you.

Blergbot · May 2014

Did you summon me? I am the master of putting things done and being unproductive. Today i got up at 10:30, ate some bread a cheese, talked to my mom on the phone for an hour, drank coffee, then watched three or four episodes of Subergatory on Hulu. Then I we t out to dinner with FI, then to meet up with some friends and drank beer. What I should actually be doing? Translating a 25 page paper I wrote into German and incorporating feedback from my advisor. It's no wonder I do nothing, instead.

themuffinman16 · May 2014

I wanted to give my guests 8 weeks notice before the wedding. I am mailing them out at 8 weeks. Unfortunately, my out of towners will get less notice. I have told all of my close relatives the date. I was just hoping to get a little jump start on my invitations so I could work on my other projects. I am a huge procrastinator, so in order to stay on task and not get behind, I have strictly adhered to my to-do list. I just wanted my guests to recieve their invitations at the 8 week mark, not mail them out. But 4 days later won't make or break my response time, I guess.

wandajune6 · May 2014

4 days is nothing! Your health and sanity are far more important. I don't know the complexity of your invitations but it seems that you have already done the heavy lifting already anyway.

It's also not so bad to ask for help. I did all of the addressing, stuffing and stamping for a friend's wedding. She got very sick and I took care of it- and I wasn't family or in the wedding, etc. I did it in a weekend with the help of a lot of bad tv. What about other friends or your FI?

tortoisebride · May 2014

Does a heating pad help at all? They can do wonders for normal cramps so maybe it'd provide some relief.

You've got time to get the invitations out. Not a big deal. I think right now you should do important wedding research by watching reality shows on netflix while lying on the couch. Very important research.

FiancB · May 2014

Invitations were the worrrrst. I had about a million things go wrong and they took so long. I got them out at exactly 6 weeks. If they get out a little later than you'd like, just remember it's really just a formality. I'm sure everyone that you're close with already knows when and where it is and you already have a pretty good idea of who can come and who can't. Take it easy.

Laying around while stuff needs to get done

Re: Laying around while stuff needs to get done

Choose Another Board

Search Boards