XP: Wedding Party

tcnoble · May 2014

An offshoot of the thread about the wedding party walking together or separate...

We initially planned to have our WP members walk together.. 6 BM, and 6 GM. Well we now have 7 GM. Not a big deal, I don't care that sides are uneven and I don't plan to add a BM just for the sake of evening it out. That being said, have you ever seen a BM walk with two GMs? I've seen the other way, where 2 BMs walk with 1 GM... curious if anyone has seen it this other way. Or would it be weird to have the first GM walk by himself? Looking for any ideas!

LondonLisa · May 2014

Yes, I have seen it a few times. Sides don't have to match.

I wouldn't think it was strange in the slightest. You may be overthinking this.

countrygirl061513 · May 2014

I think you could work it with 2 GMs escorting 1 BM or just have the GMs walk in with the groom and the ladies walk by themselves. You may need to play with this at the rehearsal to see what you like best.

KatieinBkln · May 2014

I guess you could always have the best man walk alone, if it doesn't bother you to have the MOH paired up with a "regular" groomsman. But I don't think it would be weird to double up and do 2 GMs with 1 BM, either.

Maggie0829 · May 2014

tcnoble said:

An offshoot of the thread about the wedding party walking together or separate...

We initially planned to have our WP members walk together.. 6 BM, and 6 GM. Well we now have 7 GM. Not a big deal, I don't care that sides are uneven and I don't plan to add a BM just for the sake of evening it out. That being said, have you ever seen a BM walk with two GMs? I've seen the other way, where 2 BMs walk with 1 GM... curious if anyone has seen it this other way. Or would it be weird to have the first GM walk by himself? Looking for any ideas!

Happened at my own wedding. Had 5 GMs and 2 BMs. The MOH and BM recessed out together, then 2 GMs and my other BM recessed and then the last 2 GMs recessed out together.

RissAnn1970 · May 2014

Saw it in ny very own wedding.

Maggie0829 · May 2014

Here is a picture. We don't have any from our recessional because no one really cares about that part once the bride and groom leave, but this is the two GMs with my BM walking into the reception so this is basically what it would look like.

Maggie0829 · May 2014

Oh and finally, I would just have the guys up front while your party processes in, then have everyone pair up or triple up for the recessional.

tcnoble · May 2014

Alright definitely sounds like this is no big deal - thanks ladies!

tcnoble · May 2014

Maggie0829 said:

Oh and finally, I would just have the guys up front while your party processes in, then have everyone pair up or triple up for the recessional.

I've never seen this done before - so the GMs don't actually walk down the aisle, they just come in from the side of the altar area and take their places? Do they do this before or after the groom walks in? My FI is walking down the aisle with his dog (a whole other story lol) so would they be there before or after him?

Maggie0829 · May 2014

@tcnoble - at a few weddings, including mine, the GMs also acted as ushers and escorted the Moms and the grandmothers down the aisle and then took their place at the front. Once they were in place the best man and groom came in from the side. In others all the GMs and the groom either walked single file down the aisle or came in from the side and then the processional started. For your wedding you could have all the GMs walk down the aisle and then have your groom follow with his dog and then proceed with the rest of the processional. One question about the dog though, who is going to take care of him/her once they walk down the aisle and all through the ceremony and reception? I would probably push your SO to take pictures with his dog prior to arriving to the ceremony and leave the dog with a sitter.

tcnoble · May 2014

@Maggie0829 I like the idea of the GMs walking down, then FI/dog, then BMs. I think that is what we will do if he does end up having 7 GMs.

The dog... his parents have already arranged for a friend (not attending the wedding) to bring him for pictures before, and pick him up immediately after the ceremony - which we intend to only be about 20-30 minutes. Our ceremony/reception space is only a short 15 minute drive from their house, so not a big issue. Dog will sit with FILs for the ceremony. This was the one concession I made per request of FI because he hasn't asked for much, and the dog is older and very well behaved. I do have my reservations but because it is FIs wedding, I want him to be happy with the day as well.

Maggie0829 · May 2014

Just make sure that the dog is taken for a nice long walk prior to the ceremony because the last thing you want is for the pup to need to take a pee or a poop as he is walking down the aisle.

melbelleup · May 2014

tcnoble said:

@Maggie0829 I like the idea of the GMs walking down, then FI/dog, then BMs. I think that is what we will do if he does end up having 7 GMs.

The dog... his parents have already arranged for a friend (not attending the wedding) to bring him for pictures before, and pick him up immediately after the ceremony - which we intend to only be about 20-30 minutes. Our ceremony/reception space is only a short 15 minute drive from their house, so not a big issue. Dog will sit with FILs for the ceremony. This was the one concession I made per request of FI because he hasn't asked for much, and the dog is older and very well behaved. I do have my reservations but because it is FIs wedding, I want him to be happy with the day as well.

That is AWESOME! So jealous of your FI. I would love to have my dogs in our wedding, but at last it is impossible with a church wedding. We will be taking photos with them after though. I also had them custom made for our cake toppers

photokitty · May 2014

one of the GMs could escort MOB down the aisle as well.

I was in a wedding that did that and as MOH I had BM and the extra escort me out...like Maggie's picture shows.

KickAssMOH · May 2014

I've done it myself as a BM, I had it in my own wedding (2 BM and 1 GM walked together), and I can tell you that no one notices, cares, or remembers.

ladyamanuet · May 2014

I walked down the aisle escorted by two groomsmen when I was a BM in my cousin's wedding for both the processional and recessional. The processional went:
Groom's Dad and Stepmom
Groom's mom (escorted by Best man - who was the groom's bro - who then came up the side to get back in line)
Bride's Mom and Dad
BM+GM
BM+GM
BM+GM
GM+Me+GM
MOH+BM

I had absolutely no problem having a guy on each arm. When it came time for the recessional, it was B+G, MOH+BM, then I just sidled up between my escorts and we walked down, followed by the other pairs. It was fine.

I've seen weddings done both ways, but I've only ever been a BM in weddings where BM and GM are paired for both the recessional and processional. I will say, I really enjoyed having an escort down the aisle - both to and from. I felt a lot less like I had a million eyes on me by having a "partner"

tcnoble · May 2014

@ladyamanuet That is something we never considered!! FIs parents are divorced and his dad remarried but mom didn't - one of his GMs is his older brother from that marriage, so I suggested his brother escort his mom and he loves that idea! His brother just wouldn't come back down the side to walk again - he would just take his place on the groom's side.. Is that weird?

Ahh all these scenarios we never considered beyond the normal pairs.

ladyamanuet · May 2014

@tcnoble I think that works out great - have the bro escort the mom, then you have 1 dude for each girl. Boom. Done. For the recessional he can either walk solo or add to an existing pair. I would just see what feels right during your rehearsal

Edited to fix pronoun

OwningAHome1981 · May 2014

Have the MOH walk alone and then pair up the others

yogablossom · May 2014

Absolutely, I've seen this! And it will be happening in my wedding with my MOH and my fiance's two best men.

Jen4948 · May 2014

Maggie0829 said:

Just make sure that the dog is taken for a nice long walk prior to the ceremony because the last thing you want is for the pup to need to take a pee or a poop as he is walking down the aisle.

Not only that, OP, you don't want the dog barking during the ceremony, and it has to be kept away from allergic persons. Do you have plans in place for that?

tcnoble · May 2014

Jen4948 said:

Maggie0829 said:

Just make sure that the dog is taken for a nice long walk prior to the ceremony because the last thing you want is for the pup to need to take a pee or a poop as he is walking down the aisle.

Not only that, OP, you don't want the dog barking during the ceremony, and it has to be kept away from allergic persons. Do you have plans in place for that?

Yes, all of the above have been addressed and a contingency plan made. Though I do appreciate these issues being brought up, because undoubtedly dogs have been in weddings before and things haven't gone smoothly. It's a risk we take, but we do recognize it is a risk. I also appreciate all the ideas and suggestions for the wedding party walking arrangements. Thanks ladies!!

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