Seating Parents?

Re: Seating Parents?

• MamaAlly89 member

  

  May 2014

  I've never been to a wedding where the Dad's were escorted to their seats, and as far as FSMIL I think that is totally your call. I don't think there is anything wrong with them coming in together.

   

   

   

  

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• kmmssg mod

  

  May 2014

  I am a stepmom and my girls have a stepmom.  For their weddings, whomever was the stepmom was ushered after the grandparents, followed by MOG, then MOB. DD is getting married in 3 weeks and I would like to have my DH escort me to my seat since he is her stepdad and isn't involved in walking her down the aisle.

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  May 2014

  I've never seen the fathers ushered in, either.

  
  

  At our wedding, DH's brother escorted their grandmother (mother figure) to her seat, then went and stood up with the GM.

  
  

  My brother escorted my mother to her seat, then went up and prepared to play music.

  
  

  My father walked me down the aisle, then sat with my mother.

  
  

  I would think that, if there is a stepmother in the picture, the best course of action would be:

  
  

  -- Any grandparents are ushered in and seated

  -- FSMIL and FOG walk in together and take their seats

  -- MOG is escorted in and seated 

  -- MOB is escorted in and seated

  -- Rest of processional

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• nebullama member

  

  May 2014

  Thanks guys. @HisGirlFriday13 What you have outlined is exactly what I had in mind, but our pastor seems to have implied that there ought to be an usher for FI's stepmother. My mother agrees. She says that having an usher escort her is like having someone officially welcome them. I guess I can see her point.
  
  Thinking about it further, I asked my mother and FMIL who they wanted to usher them, so perhaps the right thing to do would be to ask FOG and his wife what they would prefer.

  

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  May 2014

  I always think think the best course of action is to ask reasonable people what they'd prefer.
  
  If you know they'll be reasonable, go ahead and ask. And if SMOG says she'd rather walk in with FOG, then there's your answer.
  
  Also, in my mind, having the FOG escort his wife counts as ushering her. It doesn't have to be an actual usher who does the ushering, especially since ushers aren't always present at all weddings.

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• MairePoppy mod

  

  May 2014 edited May 2014

  Traditionally, the women are escorted in by an usher with their spouses following behind them.

  
  

  It would be grandmothers with escort, each followed by her husband. SM with usher, followed by her husband, MOG with usher, followed by her husband, MOG with usher, followed by her husband - unless he will be escorting the bride. 

  
  

  For my daughter's wedding, my parents (only grandparents present) walked in together and the MOG and FOG walked in together without ushers. I was escorted by a VIP cousin of the groom. My husband walked our daughter down the aisle. 

  
  

  You should ask each couple for their preference. If grandma and grandpa want an escort and FSMIL wants to walk with the FOG, that's fine. 
  

  
  

  
  

                     

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• iloveu4ever member

  

  May 2014

  It is up to you. But traditions and all the stepmother is to be escorted by usher. 

  
   

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• nebullama member

  

  May 2014

  It seems that asking her was the right thing to do. It turns out that she's a traditional sort of lady, and opted for usher.

  

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• Gizmo813 member

  

  May 2014

  On a similar note, my father is, for all intents and purposes remarried (common law ... no state-recognized marriage). I only have one brother, who will be escorting my mother down the isle before standing at the altar next to FI. My dad will be walking with me.

  
  

  Is it ok for another groomsman (unrelated to me, and unknown to my SM) to escort SM down the isle? (Obviously, I will be asking my dad and SM what they prefer, but wanted to get input as to tradition.) 

  
  

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