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Rude not to introduce the wedding party?

So we aren't having a DJ for our wedding. We have a friend setting up speakers and are making our own playlist. My brother (my best man) offered to introduce us when we come in to the reception, but this would be just introducing us. Is it rude to only introduce the bride and groom?

As a guest, I don't really care about the wedding party introductions, but I've never been in a wedding party so I wasn't sure if it was important to wedding party members.
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Re: Rude not to introduce the wedding party?

  • I never care who comprises the WP.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • I've been to a ton of weddings and have never once seen the WP introduced.  Heck, I've never seen the B&G introduced either. They just show up and blend into the party.
  • kitty8403kitty8403 member
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    edited May 2014
    I don't think I have ever heard the WP introduced. Usually not even the couple except right after they kiss at the altar!
    This is why I like programs or tableside thank you cards, though. A couple packs of linen paper from an office supply store, a basic layout program, and a home printer are all you need to make sure your wedding party, family members, and any friends who contributed are properly and publicly recognized.
  • If you aren't doing programs, then normally what is done in my area is each member of the WP introduces him/herself when the whole speeches thing starts. Or the best man/MOH will introduce the others during their toasts.
  • I don't want to introduce my wedding party, either. I'm not a shy person but I was a BM a few months ago and they introduced us and made us do awkward dances with the matching groomsman, and then we were supposed to stand there in the center of the dance floor for the bride and groom who then proceeded to have us do a very spur of the moment super awkward dance to "the Harlem shake".

    I wanted to kill the bride for making us look so ridiculous!

    FI wants me to introduce the wedding party, though. He did agree after seeing backstreet boys wedding party "dance" at last nights wedding that we would not be torturing our friends. So dumb.

    I like a PPs idea - get on the mic and say their names and thank them for their support and presence.

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  • I think it's totally fine to only introduce yourselves in. 

    Funny story. I hate being a member of a bridal party and being introduced in, especially within the last few years. Everyone expects you to do some silly dance on your way in. The last wedding I was in, no one informed us that we had to make a very sharp left turn to actually get to the dance floor. We just assumed we had to walk straight. Well, me and the guy are so into our dumb dance (that he insisted that we do) that we walked right into a table of guests. And then we had no idea where to go after that. The guests then had to point us to where the dance floor was where we were supposed to line up. Everyone was laughing at us and I wanted to die. 
  • I think it's totally fine to only introduce yourselves in. 


    Funny story. I hate being a member of a bridal party and being introduced in, especially within the last few years. Everyone expects you to do some silly dance on your way in. The last wedding I was in, no one informed us that we had to make a very sharp left turn to actually get to the dance floor. We just assumed we had to walk straight. Well, me and the guy are so into our dumb dance (that he insisted that we do) that we walked right into a table of guests. And then we had no idea where to go after that. The guests then had to point us to where the dance floor was where we were supposed to line up. Everyone was laughing at us and I wanted to die. 

    I wonder if that's a regional thing! I have NEVER seen the wedding party do a special or goofy dance. We'd be utterly mortified. I can't believe people actually demand this!
  • kitty8403 said:
    I think it's totally fine to only introduce yourselves in. 

    Funny story. I hate being a member of a bridal party and being introduced in, especially within the last few years. Everyone expects you to do some silly dance on your way in. The last wedding I was in, no one informed us that we had to make a very sharp left turn to actually get to the dance floor. We just assumed we had to walk straight. Well, me and the guy are so into our dumb dance (that he insisted that we do) that we walked right into a table of guests. And then we had no idea where to go after that. The guests then had to point us to where the dance floor was where we were supposed to line up. Everyone was laughing at us and I wanted to die. 
    I wonder if that's a regional thing! I have NEVER seen the wedding party do a special or goofy dance. We'd be utterly mortified. I can't believe people actually demand this!
    It's totally a regional thing. I was born and raised on the East Coast, and WP introductions were much more sedate-- maybe a slow dance or something. Here in Wisconsin, we've got the Grand March-- usually involving silly dances and/or costumes. I'm not gonna lie, I kind of love it, but I'm also kind of an attention whore once in a while. :)
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  • kitty8403 said:
    I think it's totally fine to only introduce yourselves in. 

    Funny story. I hate being a member of a bridal party and being introduced in, especially within the last few years. Everyone expects you to do some silly dance on your way in. The last wedding I was in, no one informed us that we had to make a very sharp left turn to actually get to the dance floor. We just assumed we had to walk straight. Well, me and the guy are so into our dumb dance (that he insisted that we do) that we walked right into a table of guests. And then we had no idea where to go after that. The guests then had to point us to where the dance floor was where we were supposed to line up. Everyone was laughing at us and I wanted to die. 
    I wonder if that's a regional thing! I have NEVER seen the wedding party do a special or goofy dance. We'd be utterly mortified. I can't believe people actually demand this!
    It's totally a regional thing. I was born and raised on the East Coast, and WP introductions were much more sedate-- maybe a slow dance or something. Here in Wisconsin, we've got the Grand March-- usually involving silly dances and/or costumes. I'm not gonna lie, I kind of love it, but I'm also kind of an attention whore once in a while. :)
    I live in NY. Maybe it's just the weddings I've been to lately. I feel like this trend started with Jim & Pam's wedding on The Office. Remember how their friends all danced down the aisle? That seems to have been the beginning of this. Prior to that, everyone was just announced in and they walked to wear they had to go. Now it's like each member of the WP has to out-do each other with a grand entrance. I witnessed a GM doing the worm into the reception last year. Just..NO. 
  • KGold80KGold80 member
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    edited May 2014
    OP, I'm so glad you asked this! I'd been trying to figure out how to work this. Two of our kids are pretty shy and my MOH isn't a fan of being the center of attention either. We wouldn't have had them do any silly dances or anything, but having all eyes on them when they walk into the room could be really awkward. I think we'll forgo the WP introductions for their sakes and just have the DJ announce us when we enter the reception.

    ETA: Oh em gee...does my ticker really say 3 weeks and 4 days? EEP.
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  • Not a fan of silly WP intros, but at one wedding the MOH was carried out superman style by the best man, popping a bottle of champagne in each hand. That was baller.
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