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Plus One Dilemma

MrsMaggardToBeMrsMaggardToBe member
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Our wedding is September 26, 2014 at the Moon Palace in Cancun. My FI's original best man was also his sisters fiancé. However, she stopped talking to him in January and has called off their engagement. We now have a new BM and her ex isn't coming. 

Now the dilemma, our prices are based on double occupancy and include flight and air tickets. His sister refuses to stay in a room with his mom and I told her a single room is more expensive. She says to me "Well can't I just lie and say someones there?" I told her why she couldn't do that and she says "Well I will just find someone to come and figure it out". She's not in a serious relationship with anyone so we haven't included a "plus one" for her. She's crazy and not a nice person so I don't want to chance her bringing a random fling or a friend we don't want there. It's a tough situation so I'm torn whether to suck it up and let her bring someone or just tell her she can ask a family member who would like to go to room with her.

 

Any advice since it is a destination wedding and not your typical wedding? Should I follow the same "plus-one" etiquette?

 

 

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Re: Plus One Dilemma

  • LatilloLatillo member
    100 Comments 25 Love Its First Anniversary First Answer
    Yes, unfortunately you still have to give her the "plus one" option. We have a few guests and one of our best men who aren't in any serious relationships but we are giving everyone who is single a "plus one". That's just my opinion of course! It's your wedding :) Good luck!
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  • princessleia22princessleia22 member
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    I would allow her a plus one, whoever that may be. Even if it's someone you don't really know, it shouldn't ruin your day. But, many people prefer not to travel alone, so it's usually nice to allow plus one for single guests also for destination wedding, even if they just end up bringing a friend rather than date. Or propose the option of other family members that may be willing to share room with her. Are there any other single girls she could room with? Is there anyone where both were invited, but only one is able to attend?

    We originally invited best man, his wife, and their 4 kids to our destination wedding.  Instead, they decided to have wife stay home with the kids and best man's parents are coming and sharing cost of hotel room with him.  Even though they weren't originally on our guest list, it's still within the number of guests we had anticipated and we don't want to cause any undue cost or hardship on best man, so we said it was fine.

    In your case, I would allow a plus one and then just lay out her options for her, then let her decide what works for her.

    Option A: cost if she goes single

    Option B: cost for two people (her + her guest/date/friend)

    Option C: names of other guests she may want to check with to see about sharing (including parents)

     

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  • saric83saric83 member
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    What does your fiance think?  If it were me, I would give her a plus one (we did for all guests, regardless of relationship status.)  You risk her not being able to go due to cost without having someone else with her.  
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  • malynamalyna member
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    Are there any other singles in going? I was planning on helping my guests pair up with each other
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  • MrsJeremiahMrsJeremiah member
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    nicoann said:

    I would allow her a plus one, whoever that may be. Even if it's someone you don't really know, it shouldn't ruin your day. But, many people prefer not to travel alone, so it's usually nice to allow plus one for single guests also for destination wedding, even if they just end up bringing a friend rather than date. Or propose the option of other family members that may be willing to share room with her. Are there any other single girls she could room with? Is there anyone where both were invited, but only one is able to attend?

    We originally invited best man, his wife, and their 4 kids to our destination wedding.  Instead, they decided to have wife stay home with the kids and best man's parents are coming and sharing cost of hotel room with him.  Even though they weren't originally on our guest list, it's still within the number of guests we had anticipated and we don't want to cause any undue cost or hardship on best man, so we said it was fine.

    In your case, I would allow a plus one and then just lay out her options for her, then let her decide what works for her.

    Option A: cost if she goes single

    Option B: cost for two people (her + her guest/date/friend)

    Option C: names of other guests she may want to check with to see about sharing (including parents)

     

    I recommend Option C here. I had this problem when I had to fly to a friend's wedding. My fiance couldn't come with me and I couldn't afford both the air fare and hotel cost so I split the room with another guest. We became fast friends and still keep in contact. I doubt I would have had as much fun if I'd gotten my own room. Are there any other guests that she might click with?
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  • MrsMaggardToBeMrsMaggardToBe member
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    She's actually been "un-invited". She has became extremely hateful and jealous of our family.

    She made the decision very easy when she decided to blow things out of proportion and threaten me.

    No more plus one dilemma for our wedding. :)

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