How was your weekend? (And my woe-is-me vent)

sarawifenow · May 2014

Hey all! How was your (hopefully) long weekend? Mine was just ok. My MOH and I went to the pool yesterday, but the rest was pretty uneventful. There was some frustration because my second MOH (I have mentioned her before) took herself out of the WP which really sucked. She had been really distant following a job loss, but quickly got another job. I had been trying to get in contact with her for a really long time. She called me out of the blue on Sunday and told me that she doesn't believe in marriage, so she won't be a hypocrite and stand up as the MOH in a wedding. I am hurt but I will still send her an invite. Hopefully you all had some fun and positive things happen this weekend!? ETA: I swear I put paragraphs in this.

RebeccaFlower · May 2014

I'm sorry this happened. It sounds like you're doing everything you can to be a friend to her at this time in her life, but I think her excuse is shitty. Just because my brother doesn't believe in God doesn't make him a hypocrite to stand up in my wedding in a church, it means he respects my choice.

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

I'm so sorry. Your friend is being really crappy. You know that, but I hope it helps to hear it validated.

Weekend was pretty good. Hung out with friends Sunday night, spent most of yesterday cleaning/cooking/organising/relaxing.

DH got a call from his father on Sunday morning informing him that his maternal grandmother (not the BSC one who makes my life unpleasant) had died. This was, apparently, news to him as he was unaware she was still alive to begin with.

(When you have no relationship with your mother, you tend also not to have a relationship with HER mother, who started the cycle of abuse and neglect.)

He did reach out to his aunt (mother's sister, whom he's close to) to offer condolences. He wants to attend the funeral (possibly, depending on when it is) to support his aunt.

We went to the grocery store to get cards (two weddings and a sympathy for his aunt) and as we were looking for one that seemed appropriate, he said, 'Forget 'Modern Family' and the same-sex marriage. Hallmark needs to start writing cards for the modern dysfunctional family where someone died and you're sorry for the loss but really the person was a PITA and no one will miss them.'

There is no such section in the store. I looked.

sarawifenow · May 2014

HisGirlFriday13 said:

I'm so sorry. Your friend is being really crappy. You know that, but I hope it helps to hear it validated.

Weekend was pretty good. Hung out with friends Sunday night, spent most of yesterday cleaning/cooking/organising/relaxing.

DH got a call from his father on Sunday morning informing him that his maternal grandmother (not the BSC one who makes my life unpleasant) had died. This was, apparently, news to him as he was unaware she was still alive to begin with.

(When you have no relationship with your mother, you tend also not to have a relationship with HER mother, who started the cycle of abuse and neglect.)

He did reach out to his aunt (mother's sister, whom he's close to) to offer condolences. He wants to attend the funeral (possibly, depending on when it is) to support his aunt.

We went to the grocery store to get cards (two weddings and a sympathy for his aunt) and as we were looking for one that seemed appropriate, he said, 'Forget 'Modern Family' and the same-sex marriage. Hallmark needs to start writing cards for the modern dysfunctional family where someone died and you're sorry for the loss but really the person was a PITA and no one will miss them.'

There is no such section in the store. I looked.

Haha! I was having a similar sentiment as your DH when I was looking at Father's Day cards the other day. I need something that says, "Thanks for contributing to my existence, but otherwise you kind of suck" card.

SmileDamnit · May 2014

Well that is just plain craptastic of your friend. Hugs & wine for you.

We had a really good weekend - met up with my sister & her BF to see a show at a really small, divey bar/venue on Colfax Saturday night and then hit up Pete's Kitchen for breakfast at midnight. I haven't done that in AGES!

Sunday we went shopping for our wedding bands (eeek!!) and babysat my BFF's 5-month-old twins while her DH went on a much needed date.

Yesterday we did some yard work and hit up Moe's for some BBQ and bowling. Good times!

beachyone15 · May 2014

So sorry about your friend. I'm sure that wasn't easy to hear. But I suppose it's better she told you now, rather than later!

...and I have been dying to go to our pool, just haven't found the time!

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

SaraBrideSoon said:

HisGirlFriday13 said:

I'm so sorry. Your friend is being really crappy. You know that, but I hope it helps to hear it validated.

Weekend was pretty good. Hung out with friends Sunday night, spent most of yesterday cleaning/cooking/organising/relaxing.

DH got a call from his father on Sunday morning informing him that his maternal grandmother (not the BSC one who makes my life unpleasant) had died. This was, apparently, news to him as he was unaware she was still alive to begin with.

(When you have no relationship with your mother, you tend also not to have a relationship with HER mother, who started the cycle of abuse and neglect.)

He did reach out to his aunt (mother's sister, whom he's close to) to offer condolences. He wants to attend the funeral (possibly, depending on when it is) to support his aunt.

We went to the grocery store to get cards (two weddings and a sympathy for his aunt) and as we were looking for one that seemed appropriate, he said, 'Forget 'Modern Family' and the same-sex marriage. Hallmark needs to start writing cards for the modern dysfunctional family where someone died and you're sorry for the loss but really the person was a PITA and no one will miss them.'

There is no such section in the store. I looked.

Haha! I was having a similar sentiment as your DH when I was looking at Father's Day cards the other day. I need something that says, "Thanks for contributing to my existence, but otherwise you kind of suck" card.

Hallmark really could be cashing in if it would just expand its horizons a little and include the following cards:

-- Thanks for contributing to my physical existence, but you're kind of a POS

-- I'm sorry your parent whom no one liked died and now you have to clean up their disaster of an estate

-- I'm sorry your spouse left you for a person of the same gender but you're probably better off

-- I'm sorry your engagement ended, but we all knew he was a lying, cheating, D-bag

And so on.

sarawifenow · May 2014

@SmileDamnit-Pete's brings back some ridiculous memories!

climbingsingle · May 2014

That's totally shitty of your friend. Hey, I'm not having kids, but that doesn't mean I'm not going to celebrate with my friends when they get pregnant/have babies. Jeesh. My weekend was good. We went out both Friday and Saturday nights for friends' birthdays. Sunday I needed to recover so we just did stuff around the house. Then yesterday it was beautiful weather! We spent most of the day on the boat.

lyndausvi · May 2014

I'm sorry Sarah. That really sucks.

Hisgirlfriday - sorry but I had to chuckle at your post. Your DH's dysfunctional family should not be funny, but your delivery is funny. I hope that makes sense.

I worked all weekend including yesterday. Sunday and Monday were half days though.

I leave for DE/PA in a week. I can't wait to see my sister and the rest of the family. So far I think Dad is still unaware about the surprise party. Woohoo. Lots of work to do once I get there though.

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

@lyndausvi -- Thanks! I appreciate that. I try to make it funny, even though it's gallows humour, because otherwise, it's just too freaking terrible to contemplate.

And the conversation between DH and his father went something like this:

Asshole father: So, grandma died.

DH: BSC granny?

AF: No, your mother's mother.

DH: She's still alive?

AF: NO, she's dead.

DH: But she was still alive?

AF: She died yesterday.

DH: I didn't know she was still alive.

AF: She's not, she's dead.

I just...smile, and nod, and drink.

Inkdancer · May 2014

HisGirlFriday13 said:

@lyndausvi -- Thanks! I appreciate that. I try to make it funny, even though it's gallows humour, because otherwise, it's just too freaking terrible to contemplate.

And the conversation between DH and his father went something like this:

Asshole father: So, grandma died.
DH: BSC granny?
AF: No, your mother's mother.
DH: She's still alive?
AF: NO, she's dead.
DH: But she was still alive?
AF: She died yesterday.
DH: I didn't know she was still alive.
AF: She's not, she's dead.

I just...smile, and nod, and drink.

All I can think of is Rosencrantz and Guildenstern. It's messed up, but it's still funny.

flyingfoxes · May 2014

It was awesome - went to Missouri wine country with FI and stayed at a B&B, went on a 22-mile bike ride on the Katy Trail, then met up with his kids for lunch on Sunday before driving home. Yesterday we played mini golf and rode go-karts before relaxing at home. He's off for 32 days, so he's at home unpacking boxes and doing chores while I'm back at work.

JCbride2015 · May 2014

I'm sorry to hear about your friend! She sounds really self-involved and judgmental.

My weekend was meh. Fi was away at his brother's bach party-- a whole long weekend in Atlantic City, which Fi just couldn't understand. I love this man. He kept saying, "But why do you need a whole production of a weekend? And why would you want to go to strip clubs and pay a $25 cover just to throw more money at a lady with some boobs? If I want to see boobs, I can see better ones at home!"

Oh, and when they got to the hotel, they were all out of the rooms with two doubles, so they had to all share King beds. Poor guys. But the good news is that because pretty much none of the options (strippers, overpriced clubs, etc.) were appealing to Fi, he didn't participate in a lot of it and stayed under budget for the weekend. So that's something, at least.

I am sick, I'm not sure if it's allergies or a sinus infection. So I spent most of the weekend on the couch or straightening up the apartment. My sister came to hang out-- we ate ice cream and finished Season 1 of Orange is the New Black. Can't wait for Season 2 now!

smalfrie19 · May 2014

My sister and I took the afternoon yesterday and drove (almost) up to the Canadian border and drove home. It was nice to have sister bonding time.

Inkdancer · May 2014

Awesome weekend. My parents came in and we celebrated Mother's Day, my birthday, my adoption, and FI's birthday all at once. The adoption celebration was the best--Dad and I both cried over each other's gifts. Dad gave me a scarf made of the family tartan, and a plaque of our surname meaning, and an Origami Owl pendant full of stuff to represent me, plus a heart that says "Daughter". I sobbed.

Jells2dot0 · May 2014

Why do people suck sometimes??

The highlight of my weekend was food. In preparation for my treatment, I was told to bulk up. Um, okay!!! So, I am enjoying food and lots of it

Cookie Pusher · May 2014

I'm sorry about your friend, Sarah. It's better to know now than to find out, like, day of the wedding.

Weekend was awesome! We went to a wedding on Saturday night for friends of ours who were also on the we've-been-together-forever-why-bother-getting-married-oh-wait-I-like-shiny-things-and-parties train we're on. The wedding was beautiful, the food was amazing, and the company was fantastic. I felt like an old fart, though, since I got back to the hotel around 11 with every intention of going to one of the after-parties but just could not get myself motivated. I got out of my dress and my body just went "Nope. Nope. So much nope!" I sat on the floor for a good 20 minutes trying to make myself get up. I ended up showering and hopping into bed. I was passed out well before 1 and didn't wake up again until 11. Yep, I feel old.

We went to 2 different BBQs on Sunday, both of them were awesome. It was good to see so many friends old and new, and finally relax. We slept in on Monday, laid around on the couch until after 2, and then I went and did the grocery shopping and laundry. I had no idea what to make for dinner, so I grabbed some ground beef and put together sliders with Irish Cheddar, pickles, Jersey tomatoes, and a roasted garlic/sweet onion jam. Yummy.

lyndausvi · May 2014

UGH..

Just had to take the new dog to the vet for having blood in his stool. They are super busy so I had to just drop him off. It's going to be a long day.

banana468 · May 2014

I'm sorry about that Sarah!

The weekend was mostly good. Saturday I saw Chelsea Handler with two girlfriends and enjoyed a grown up dinner out. It was great to eat and laugh most of the night.

Sunday DH, Chiquita and I went to a cookout at a friend's place and we got to catch up with friends from college. DD was well behaved and we liked the time with people we only get to see a few times a year.

Yesterday MIL called and told DH that his grandmother passed away that morning. She woke up, applied her makeup and entered into her final rest. While we weren't surprised (she had been in Hospice for the last 6 mo) it was still quick and not totally expected. DH was really bummed for a bit and he needed downtime to himself as a result.

sophhabobopha · May 2014

Your friend sounds like a real piece of work!

And speaking of work, that's all I did this weekend. ._.

sarawifenow · May 2014

You all seriously give the best pick me ups!

OnceUponAVine · May 2014

I'm sorry to everyone who's had some unpleasantness this weekend :-\ Its never fun...

BF & I actually had a pretty great (and busy) weekend. Friday night we met up with friends for our weekly "Whiskey Friday" get together. Saturday BF and I went for pho & wandered around our local Main Street chatting with some of the store owners before going out for the night with friends

Sunday was a great day at Hershey Park with BF, my sister & her husband, and Monday was filled with yardwork at the house and then a BBQ!

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