Ceremony/Reception signs for parents that have passed away?

Re: Ceremony/Reception signs for parents that have passed away?

• KGold80 member

  

  May 2014

  kriz10ice said:

  I am going to make a sign for the ceremony and reception for my dad that passed away a few years ago. You've probably seen them that say "We know you'd be here today if heaven wasn't so far away." Well, my initial thought was to have a seat reserved for him at the ceremony and have that sign sitting in it. My mom would sit in the next seat, then her boyfriend (that has been around for a while now, so I'm totally comfortable with it and he wouldn't be uncomfortable with this arrangement either, then my brother. Would it be strange to have a seat reserved for someone who had passed away though? And some suggestions for what to do with this after the ceremony is over would be nice too. Thank you!

  How are you going to feel looking over at that seat? Will you cry tears of sadness on what is supposed to be a happy occasion? Have you asked your mom and her boyfriend how they would feel about sitting next to a seat "reserved" for your deceased father? I'd think it might feel a little awkward for them and they honestly might not tell you that for fear of hurting your feelings.
  
  Can you memorialize your dad in some other way? Some people have placed lockets with a picture of their deceased loved one on their bouquet to memorialize more privately, or carried something of that person's with them - a scrap of a favorite shirt or something like that.
  

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Istoleahalo member

  

  May 2014

  KGold80 said:

  kriz10ice said:

  I am going to make a sign for the ceremony and reception for my dad that passed away a few years ago. You've probably seen them that say "We know you'd be here today if heaven wasn't so far away." Well, my initial thought was to have a seat reserved for him at the ceremony and have that sign sitting in it. My mom would sit in the next seat, then her boyfriend (that has been around for a while now, so I'm totally comfortable with it and he wouldn't be uncomfortable with this arrangement either, then my brother. Would it be strange to have a seat reserved for someone who had passed away though? And some suggestions for what to do with this after the ceremony is over would be nice too. Thank you!

  How are you going to feel looking over at that seat? Will you cry tears of sadness on what is supposed to be a happy occasion? Have you asked your mom and her boyfriend how they would feel about sitting next to a seat "reserved" for your deceased father? I'd think it might feel a little awkward for them and they honestly might not tell you that for fear of hurting your feelings.
  
  Can you memorialize your dad in some other way? Some people have placed lockets with a picture of their deceased loved one on their bouquet to memorialize more privately, or carried something of that person's with them - a scrap of a favorite shirt or something like that.
  

  My dad passed away a couple of years ago too.  I think it's a beautiful thing to reserve his seat and thought about the same for mine...but for the reason mentioned above, I'm not doing it.  I  know myself and I would break down as soon as I saw that empty seat!  I am having his picture on my bouquet and a grouping of pictures at the reception for several people who have passed (my grandmother and aunt, and my FI's grandmother as well) with a sign.  I haven't decided on the wording of the sign yet. 

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• KGold80 member

  

  May 2014

  @knotporscha - VENDOR ALERT!
  

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• KatWAG member

  

  May 2014

  @justinwoodsigns you are not allowed to advertise here. @knotporscha please remove this.

  OP, please dont do this. It could be very upseting to your mom or other guests. A wedding should not be a memorial. If you want to do something keep it very subtle. And a sign on an empty chair is about as subtle as a mack truck.

  

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• chibiyui member

  

  May 2014

  justinwoodsigns said:

  Hello Bride to be, 

  
  

  We can help you with your sign for your special day. Gather all your ideas and submit a custom order on our website. We will promptly get back to you and give you a quote. 

  
  

  Here is an example of what we can do. (Note: This is not the final product.)

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  I'm just going to comment, that advertising on forum post about honoring a deceased loved one is one of the most appalling things I have ever seen on these boards. 
  
  You should be ashamed. 
  
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• JoanE2012 member

  

  May 2014

  justinwoodsigns said:

  Thank you for the info.

  
  

  Is there somewhere we can post or contact brides directly?

  
  No, this is not a forum for vendors.

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• KatWAG member

  

  May 2014

  @justwoodinsigns this is not a place for you to advertise. Take it somewhere else. FYI, you agree to the terms when you created your account.

  

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• [Deleted User] admin

  

  May 2014

  Thanks guys-- that user has been banned. 

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• dolewhipper member

  

  May 2014

  Istoleahalo said:

  KGold80 said:

  kriz10ice said:

  I am going to make a sign for the ceremony and reception for my dad that passed away a few years ago. You've probably seen them that say "We know you'd be here today if heaven wasn't so far away." Well, my initial thought was to have a seat reserved for him at the ceremony and have that sign sitting in it. My mom would sit in the next seat, then her boyfriend (that has been around for a while now, so I'm totally comfortable with it and he wouldn't be uncomfortable with this arrangement either, then my brother. Would it be strange to have a seat reserved for someone who had passed away though? And some suggestions for what to do with this after the ceremony is over would be nice too. Thank you!

  How are you going to feel looking over at that seat? Will you cry tears of sadness on what is supposed to be a happy occasion? Have you asked your mom and her boyfriend how they would feel about sitting next to a seat "reserved" for your deceased father? I'd think it might feel a little awkward for them and they honestly might not tell you that for fear of hurting your feelings.
  
  Can you memorialize your dad in some other way? Some people have placed lockets with a picture of their deceased loved one on their bouquet to memorialize more privately, or carried something of that person's with them - a scrap of a favorite shirt or something like that.
  

  My dad passed away a couple of years ago too.  I think it's a beautiful thing to reserve his seat and thought about the same for mine...but for the reason mentioned above, I'm not doing it.  I  know myself and I would break down as soon as I saw that empty seat!  I am having his picture on my bouquet and a grouping of pictures at the reception for several people who have passed (my grandmother and aunt, and my FI's grandmother as well) with a sign.  I haven't decided on the wording of the sign yet. 

  Ditto. My dad passed away a couple years ago and I know my grandmother (his mom) will probably go apeshit crying if she sees a photo of my father. We've decided that my FI will wear my dad's bowtie and I will have a locket with his photo in it in my bouquet. We will also end the evening to one of his favorite songs. Other than that, I made it clear to my WP that no one will mention his name or that he isn't there. When to comes to what I believe, I know he'll be there in spirit, and that's enough for me.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Lisax4156 member

  

  May 2014

  My mother also passed almost 3 years ago now. I'm not doing anything to memorialize her consistently at my reception, such as an empty chair. I don't want anyone crying at a happy event. I am, however, deciding to play a song for her, dedicated to her memory. I'm going to have a Barbra Streisand song played since she was my moms favorite singer. 

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• carliealissa member

  

  May 2014

  Goodness, my parents and grandparents are still alive thank goodness and I still tear up when I come across those signs online just imagining something happening to any of them.  I have to agree with everyone above that while I appreciate the sentiment, it is just way too horribly depressing and out of place.  I guarantee that putting that sign up is going to throw some of your guests into a mournful state of mind, if not outward tears, and who wants that for their wedding day.

   

  

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