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registry debate am i right?

hyechica81hyechica81 member
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edited May 2014 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
so i was checking out my wedding registry today, one of fi cousins who lives out of state inquired a few weeks ago about where we were registered. so he told her. ( shes also rsvped no to the wedding as her and her family cant come)

today i saw some items purchased ok i figured maybe she purchased them and they are being shipped.

i was telling my mom that some more gifts are coming and she said ok but you should have taken your registry down after the bridal shower so you could get money

so whose right me keeping up the registry or her telling me to take it down? 

im not fishing for money nor am i fishing for gifts i know people will come with something to the wedding and there will be those who wont. but it wont bother me.



i feel like if i take it down i am looking like me and fi are greedy. We didn't put registry info in the invites we only did the registry inserts in the shower invites, in wedding invites we had response cards, church info,  reception info hotel info including directions to hotel and the venue


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  • harper0813harper0813 member
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    Your mom doesn't make sense to me. A wedding registry is for the wedding as well as the shower. I vote for you being right just because I don't get your mom.
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    Your mom is wrong.  You should leave it up. I guess if everything was completed, you could remove them, but I don't think you should remove the registry if there are still items you would like. It makes no sense.
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  • harper0813harper0813 member
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    I also don't understand why your mom is trying to decide FOR you that you want money more than gifts. That's entirely up to you. People will still cash. I'd just stop talking to your mom about wedding-related things.
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    What? I would just leave the registry up. I presume you only registered for stuff you actually want? If it's not all bought, just leave it up there. 
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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    Well, if your mom's reasoning is why you'd take it down, then you would definitely come off as greedy. Leave it up!
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  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    I dislike people trying to force me into giving cash.  I won't do it, so you'll either get nothing or get something that I pick out for you. 



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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    If I got your invitation to your wedding and couldn't go, I'd totally go to your registry and see if there was anything on there that I wanted to get you.  If it was really soon before your wedding, I'd go on there and clean things up by getting you the one knife left on the list, the two potholders, the filters for your vacuum cleaner, a board game, and a box of Keurig coffee pods, all the random shit that was left over.  If you didn't have a registry, I'd give you nothing.  

    If I was planning on going to your wedding, I might write you a check, but I wouldn't give you anything if I wasn't able to go.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    I'd have left the registry up.  Even if guests can't attend your wedding, they might prefer to give you boxed gifts rather than cash.
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  • phiraphira member
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    Ignore your mom.
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  • SammiNJonniSammiNJonni member
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    Leave it up those who want to give cash will anyway.
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  • hyechica81hyechica81 member
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    ok thanks for the advice i am leaving it up i know my brother left his up and he eventualy took it down but it was well after the wedding. we have mostly small nick nacks on there all the big stuff was already bought.
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  • kitty8403kitty8403 member
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    This makes no sense.
    A registry is for the WEDDING. A lot of people don't even do showers. People who have showers might shop from the registry, but you don't create a registry just for a shower, you create it for the whole wedding.
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  • indianaalumindianaalum member
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    Definitely keep it up. ANOTHER reason to keep it up is YOU get discounts on the items after the wedding if there is anything else you need that is still left.

    If you take it down, that won't happen
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    JFC where do people get this shit?
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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