NWR: Registry for a housewarming?

OwningAHome1981 · June 2014

So this kinda rubbed me the wrong way...

Hubby and I got invited to a housewarming party. The invite was sent on facebook. On the invite the couple sent a link to their registry (not engaged - they have a housewarming registry) and a note saying Pier One gift cards are preferred.

These people are nice and all but I feel like this is really rude. I generally bring a lil gift anyway to a housewarming but now I feel like not even getting them anything at all.

Thoughts?

huskypuppy14 · June 2014

Totally rude. Yuck.

huskypuppy14 · June 2014

FWIW, I think it's fine to have a housewarming registry, because you can get discounts for completing it, and maybe Mom and Dad will buy something from it.

However, just like a wedding invitation, a house warming invitation should have no mention of gifts.

OwningAHome1981 · June 2014

I wasnt so off-put by the fact they have the registry either - it was more at the direct mention of gifts and the specific pier one gift card mention. Ugh so tacky

JCbride2015 · June 2014

Rude, especially the request for gift cards.

After our home was destroyed in Sandy, many family members asked how they could help. We ended up making an Amazon wish list for a few household items we needed. When we had a housewarming party once we found our new place a few months later, several friends asked if we had a registry. So we told them about the Amazon list.

But we never would have sent out a link, asked for gifts, or especially said we wanted gift cards. That wish list was only shared by people who specifically asked for it.

chibiyui · June 2014

Yeah, crazy tacky mentioning registry and gift cards on invites.

sophhabobopha · June 2014

Super tacky, I'd get them a pet rock.

AddieCake · June 2014

I don't like that at all. I have never been to a houswarming where anybody brought anything other than booze or plants.

emmyg65 · June 2014

A housewarming isn't a gift-giving occasion in my circle. Rather, it's a chance to have a fun party in your new house. So yeah, it'd be super weird to register. And even weirder to put that info on the invite.

HisGirlFriday13 · June 2014

In my circle, a house-warming party is an occasion to bring potted plants or booze or both. But no one does full-on registries for them.

That whole thing would have rubbed me the wrong way.

FiancB · June 2014

Yeah, definitely rude. I've never heard of anything more than small gifts for housewarmings. And the registry is tacky, and basically saying "your cheapo gifts from Target aren't good enough, it's gotta be Pier 1 for us" makes it all even worse.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

We've gone our of our way to get a bottle of something the couple with the new house especially like, but I wouldn't get a different kind of gift for a housewarming. So, are they throwing themselves a housewarming party and requesting gifts? Awesome.

Jells2dot0 · June 2014

I create a house warming registry every time we move. We never tell anyone about it nor do we ever throw a house warming party. I just really, really enjoy the completion discount at Pottery Barn

kitty8403 · June 2014

AddieCake said:
I don't like that at all. I have never been to a houswarming where anybody brought anything other than booze or plants.

^This. Unless there is some crazy story behind the event (like PP mentioning picking up after Katrina), the registry is inappropriate in my book.
I won't fault people for making their own list for a completion discount, though. That's between them and the store.

SewInLoveWithDMB · June 2014

I wouldn't have been offended by the registry, but I would have been offended by the fact that it was mentioned in the evite.

BUT - this is a couple, who is not engaged? And presumably they will get engaged at some point?

If this were for a single friend, who has been perpetually single for years and has gone out of his/her way to celebrate me (and our friends) for all of life's milestones, I wouldn't even blink at a registry and would definitely shop it. I like the concept of "fair" when it comes to gift giving events. I would hate to have a friend who constantly gave me to me (showers, bach parties, wedding, etc etc etc!) who didn't have moments like that in their life. So, going to Pier 1 or shopping on a list would actually excite me to help them to buy things they really need for their own major life event.

If it is safe to assume that a wedding shower, bach party, wedding is coming up in the next year or so? Then I think it is really rude.

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