Any suggestions would be great!

Re: Any suggestions would be great!

• beethery member

  

  June 2014

  1. You can try Minted, VistaPrint, and David's Bridal even has an invitation service with lots of templates and options. It looks like they're running a 20% off special as well.

  
  

  2. You can say something like "________ and ________ request the presence of your company as they are united in marriage etc" and you don't have to worry about naming family members.

  
  

  3. Leave kids' names off of the invitations, and if anyone contacts you to ask, just explain that the invitations are for the people they were sent to. If anyone is ballsy enough to ask why there were children present for the ceremony, you can explain that they were family, and they are also being cared for by their nanny off-site.

  
  

  You can also do something on your RSVP cards like this:

  
  

  "Name and Name will be attending (check box)

  
  

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  Name and Name unfortunately cannot attend (check box)" 

  
  

  So that there's not really much doubt of who the invitations are for. If anyone writes anyone else in, you can call and say that the invitations were explicitly for the named people.

  
  

  4. You don't have to do save-the-dates. They can be convenient, but they are definitely not required.

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• Jen4948 member

  

  June 2014

  hackmaxwedding15 said:

  Soooo, I have a few questions. 
  (Yes I know my wedding is ways away but I am a planner and I'm paying for it myself, so it's kinda spreading out because of my pockets)
  1. I'm looking at invitations online.. wayyyy out of my price range.. is there a website that anybody knows of that I can create my own invitations without breaking my pockets? I feel like most people end up losing/throwing the invitations away anyway, so I really see no point in spending a ton of money on them. 

  You could try Vistaprint or Etsy.

  
  2. Since my fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves, there is no need to include either one of our parents' names on it, correct? (Our cash, our party? lol)
  

  Hosting doesn't equal paying.  The persons who should be listed should be those acting as the "point persons" - that is, issuing the invitations, receiving the replies, greeting guests at the wedding, and seeing to it that their needs are attended to.  The people doing these things are the "hosts" of the wedding, regardless of who is or isn't contributing anything. So if you and your FI are the only persons doing that, the two of you should be the only persons listed.  Financial contributions are none of the guests' business, and it's possible to be a "host" without paying anything.
  

  Also, wedding invitations are not meant to map out your genealogies.  It only makes sense to list your parents if any of them are actually acting as the hosts in terms of being "point persons."
  

  3. Is there a way to APPROPRIATELY state that this is an adult wedding? We have 3 children in the wedding party (2 flower girls & a ring boy), however, the family nanny will be taking them after the ceremony. (My sister had children at her reception and it was nightmare) I think one of my biggest fears about my wedding is that my future-sister-in-law will show up with all 5 of her children and they are not well behaved at all.. I personally feel like weddings are not meant for children. 

  Unfortunately, no.  Etiquette requires that you list on the envelope (on the inner if you are using one; on the outer if you are not) exactly who is invited to the wedding.  If John and Mary Smith but not their children are invited, you would put "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" or "John and Mary Smith."  Only if their children are invited would you list them.  But sadly, too many people don't realize this and assume their children are invited regardless of whether or not their names are on the envelope, and if they do so RSVP, you are forced to contact them and inform them that the invitation is only for those listed and those who are not cannot be accommodated.
  

  4. Are save the dates really necessary?
  

  Strictly speaking, they're optional, but because the time to send invitations is 6 to 8 weeks prior to the wedding and many guests, especially out-of-towners, need additional notice in order to make travel, time-off, and other arrangements to attend, save-the-dates can be useful for providing such people with 6 to 8 months' advance notice of your date.  That said, anyone you send a save-the-date to must later be invited.
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  June 2014 edited June 2014

  Here is traditional wording, assuming that you are NOT having a church wedding:
  
  The pleasure of your company is requested
  at the marriage of
  Bride's Full Name
  and
  Groom's Full Name
  Day, Date
  time o'clock
  Venue
  Address
  City, State
  
  Reception to follow
  
  This last wording is assuming that your reception and ceremony are in the same location.  If you are having your reception in a different location, you need to enclose a separate reception card.
  The bride and groom never directly invite guests to their own wedding.  The passive voice is used, instead.
  You simply address your invitations to the people whom you are inviting.  If the children's names are not written on the envelope, they are not invited.  You might have to make a few telephone calls to clear this up when you receive responses.
  For formal, raised print invitations, Invitations by Dawn does a budget friendly job.  Vistaprint can print anything you design and upload from your computer.  If you do decide to send STDs, Vistaprint custom postcards are cheap and fun.  They are completely optional, though.
  

  

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