I hate the father/daughter dance song my dad wants...

Re: I hate the father/daughter dance song my dad wants...

• chibiyui member

  

  June 2014

  So, do you like, legitimately hate this song or do you just not like it? Since there aren't like' creepy lyrics I personally feel it's a bit extreme to say no if your dad is really set on it.
  
  But. If you phrase it as, "I'd like to dance to a song that holds significance to the both of us" you might spare his feelings a bit.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• AddieCake member

  

  June 2014

  I agree. Maybe tell him you'd like a more meaningful song, but don't be completely close-minded to this if it's what he really wants.

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• Jen4948 member

  

  June 2014

  Before suggesting a change of song, I'd ask your dad what he really likes about it and try to find out why he wants it.  Then you could say something like, "Well, I listened to the song but it doesn't have that effect on me.  Are there other songs that you would be happy dancing to?"  And maybe one of these alternative suggestions would also work for you, or if not, you could make suggestions of your own.

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• CMGragain member

  

  June 2014

  I fail to understand what you hate about this tune.  It was composed for the famous "Civil War" series by Ken Burns, and it has become a standard.  I suspect it will be around forever.  The song has absolutely NOTHING to do with the movie "Titanic".  Do you just hate waltzes?
  
  

  

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• Ameselle member

  

  June 2014

  I've got nothing against waltzes and I didn't say it had anything to do with "Titanic." I do think it's pretty, but it seems really slow and melancholy for a father/daughter dance, that's all.

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• CMGragain member

  

  June 2014

  It is supposed to be sentimental, evoking memories of times past and a longing for the old days.  Sort of like "Red River Valley".  It is an appropriate choice, but I think you should find something that you both like.
  My daughter and DH danced to Kermit the Frog singing ":The Rainbow Connection", and DH cried, remembering when she was his little girl!
  

  

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• NYCMercedes member

  

  June 2014

  Ameselle said:

  I'm not getting married for a year, but my dad has already approached me with a song (it's actually just a tune. There aren't any words) that he really wants to dance to. It's called Ashokan Farewell. Google it. I'll wait. If you didn't feel like googling it, it sounds like the fiddle tune from "Titanic." I mean, it's pretty, but I think it sounds kinda mournful really out of place unless you're getting married at a Civil War reenactment. This song holds absolutely no significance to our relationship; he just heard it and really liked it. I have a handful of alternatives he'd probably be okay with (that ARE significant to our relationship), but I don't want to stomp on his heart. Should I tell him I'd prefer a different song or just let him have this?

  
  A year is a long way away. Just tell him well discuss it next year. Most likely he'll change his mind. Keep playing your favorites soft around him.

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• artbyallie mod

  

  June 2014

  I'm failing to understand what's wrong with mournful for a father/daughter dance. It is sad for most parents, seeing their children grow up and leave, even as they're proud of them for doing so. We danced to Cinderella Story and my dad had to listen to it on repeat for months and then also sing the lyrics under his breath to keep himself from tearing up. I'd still cry if I listened to it now, quite frankly.

  

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• Peaseblossom55 mod

  

  June 2014

  My dad starting sending me song suggestions about a year before the wedding. Every few months we would go back and forth on songs we liked he never seemed to like any of my choices and had this one kept suggesting.  I'm not too fond of the music itself, the lyrics are perfect though, so I am just letting it go and choosing the song he wants. 

  
  

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• dalm0m member

  

  June 2014

  Talk to him. Tell him if that's what he really wants, that is what you will do but explain you're not crazy about it & would prefer something else. In the end, it's the last time you will be his little girl so let him have his way.

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• allymdd member

  

  June 2014

  I dont like the song my dad wants to walk down to...and he wants the whole wedding party to do it, too. I keep hoping he'll forget lol. Our DJ is a good friend of ours, so Im hoping he can start with just something simple, and play the dumb song for the thirty seconds I have to walk with him. We agreed on a father-daughter song right away (sweet child of mine, but mom wasnt down with the GnR verion...)so we looked for other versions. The one he really likes wouldnt be my first choice, but in the grand scheme of things, I decided its a few minutes of the night and it mkes him hppy. He obviously was drawn to it for some reason.

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