Divorced parents

Re: Divorced parents

• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  June 2014

  ezdella said:

  My fiance's parents are divorced. His father is remarried and has two young children, his mother is not remarried but has full custody of her grandson.

  
  

  How should I handle them in the processional and seating? Both of my parents are walking me down the aisle together, since they are the only ones who have financially supported us, and are really the only ones who have supported us at all. Any ideas?

  1. What does your FI want? If he wants them to be seated, they should be. If he doesn't, then they don't have to be.
  
  2. Financial support is immaterial in whether they get honoured in the processional. My husband's grandmother isn't terribly fond of me, and she was seated as part of the processional.
  
  3. If you do seat them as part of the processional, I would have the FSMIL seated first, escorted either by her husband or an usher, then the FMIL, escorted by an usher or your FI's brother (if he has one.)

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• sarawifenow member

  

  June 2014

  You don't have to have them in the processional at all. If you want to, you could have his father and step mom walk down together and then maybe his mom can be walked by an usher or groomsman (who can then return to the group). Your FI could even walk his mom down. Seating depends on how the relationship is between FILs. Just put them at different tables. Hope this helps!

  

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• crazypuglady member

  

  June 2014 edited June 2014

  Both my H's and my parents are divorced. My H's father walked down with his mother (H's grandmother), my H escorted his mother and maternal grandmother, my mother walked down with her BF, and my father walked me down. For the reception H's dad was intro'd with grandma, H's mother was escorted by her brother, my mom with her BF and my dad walked in by himself. All parties were introduced separately even though both sets of parents still had the same name. Everyone was sat at separate tables. No issues at all. I would suggest you let your FI's father and step mother walk in together, and either have an usher or other close relative walk his mother down.. or if FI is also entering by walking down the aisle, maybe he can escort his mother?

  

   

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• tammym1001 member

  

  June 2014

  Could you ask them what they want to do? I was concerned about the processional for different reasons than you are, but I stressed about it for a little while and then I decided to ask everyone what they preferred. It turned out that none of our parents (with the exception of my Dad walking me down the aisle) wanted to be a part of the processional. 

  
  

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• ezdella member

  

  June 2014

  His relationship with his father isn't the best (my fiance left the family business a couple months ago), so I'm not really even sure if he'll want to talk to him about it. His mom is awesome and much more supportive, so I know that I at least want her to be a part of it. I like the idea of him walking her down the aisle.

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• CMGragain member

  

  June 2014

  I have never seen a wedding where the parents were a part of the processional.  They were simply seated quietly, as they arrived.  The MOB is the last to be seated before the processuinal actually begins.  I was a church organist for 28 years.
  

  

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• tammym1001 member

  

  June 2014

  CMGragain said:

  I have never seen a wedding where the parents were a part of the processional.  They were simply seated quietly, as they arrived.  The MOB is the last to be seated before the processuinal actually begins.  I was a church organist for 28 years.
  

  This was what I actually meant by being part of the processional, but I didn't know how else to say it. It's not necessarily part of the processional, but they are sat after everyone else and everyone is watching them come down the aisle before the bridal party.

  
  

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