Help! I have a slightly different situation. Myself and future hubby are both military who are stationed overseas. Next year, after we're married, he'll be on a short tour (1year) and I will be at my current base for 5 months before hopefully going back to the states for several months for training before we will end up at the same base together, which we are hoping is overseas. I have my own apartment filled with household good and really don't need anymore stuff (kitchens over here are tiny and I don't have closets!). I have no way to exchange things I don't like, anyone who gets us a gift either has to pay to ship it over here or we have to pay for shipping (it's USPS but still not cheap!), and everything would just end up in storage for at minimum a year. We do love to travel and have a lot of opportunities to see all over Europe. Is there a non-trashy way to ask for money gifts if people want to give gifts? Like if I said what our favorite restaurant is and people could give us money for a dinner there or I said a couples massage costs so much and people could say the money goes towards that. I understand some people will still be totally against it so Ill register for a few things but it seems like such a waste for material things that'll sit in storage versus "experiences" we'd actually use! Any advice on how to go about doing this? Sorry for the hecka long question!!!