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I might be a robot. Or at least just a terrible human being.

So last night my FIL was in an accident. Very serious, he's in the ICU now and they think he will make it. But when we first found out, they didn't think he would. I tell DH to call his sisters but in my head I'm thinking "finally, we might be rid of this a-hole".

I feel like I should feel bad about that, but I don't. I have no love for the man, and the details of the accident (he was drinking, drove his motorcycle while only wearing a helmet) make me less inclined to feel bad for him. I feel horrible for DH. And I feel bad for DS because how do you talk to a child about that? He loves his Grandpa and my instinct is to shelter him from anything.

Some bonus WTF-ery:

DH's younger sister is divorced. She's happy, whatever. I have noticed that it seems like I never see her at daycare pick up; it's always her ex-H or her ex-MIL. Whatever, may be she gets there later or earlier. Who cares. I guess when DH was on his way to the hospital, she told him that her friend was with him. This guy is a good friend of her ex-H (and his entire family) and he is also married. His wife had a baby in March. DH thinks that they are sleeping together which both of us just find disgusting. Her ex-H did some shady stuff with other women behind her back, although apparently it was never physical, and this was one of many reasons they divorced. I have no respect for her if she is sleeping with a married man. I don't care if his marriage is over or what. DH told her that he was not to be there when he got to the hospital, that he did not want to meet this guy under these circumstances. Thankfully, he wasn't there when DH was there. She also kkeeps going on "business" trips. She's had the same job for over 5 years now, and never once traveled until she decided to leave her husband. These trips are always to places like LA, or Vegas. Coupled with the recent boob job, the trips, the lack of kids...I think she's doing what she should have done instead of getting married at 18. I don't begrudge her for wanting to have fun but at some point, when you've got two young kids you have to realize the ship has sailed.

Re: I might be a robot. Or at least just a terrible human being.

  • No side-eye or judiginess for you here. Sounds like FIL and SIL are a bag of WTF. Is FIL going to face any charges for DUI/OWI?
  • No judging here either. I'm sorry for your DH and DS, but I don't have any sympathy for people like your FIL.
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
  • He will probably face charges. Our state is pretty harsh on DUIs so I can't imagine he'll get off.
  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    I'm sorry for your family going through this because your FIL did something terrible.
  • GBCKGBCK member
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    Difficult people inspire difficult grieving processes.  You can cry and be sad while sighing w/ relief.
    Sounds pretty human.
  • VarunaTT said:
    I've come to realize that feelings themselves aren't really good or bad, they just are.  What you do to act on them is another thing.  You're not doing/behaving badly, not sharing that little factoid w/your DH or your son, so *shrug* what can you do?  You feel the way you feel.  Sorry that you guys are going through this though.

    Boo at SIL acting like she's 23.
    Hey, some of us 23 year olds know better than that! :)

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  • I'm sorry that your FIL is an asshole and that your family is being impacted by his poor choices,
  • You are indeed a robot who is terrible at being a human being, but none of this is an example of that  ;)
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