I can't find the original article now, b/c I've unfriended the poster and no amount of Google searching seems to bring it up (b/c it's noting my old searches and giving me related to that). I actually wanted to see what you guys thought of it, b/c I think most of you seem to do a good job between recognizing my kids are important to me and probably not to other people.
Background: Friend A's first marriage came to basically b/c he and his wife were fighting over having kids (he wanted, she didn't, minds were changed over course of marriage) and she then had an affair, so it was over. He has now remarried and gained 2 (or 3) stepchildren and they've recently had a baby. He is fully in new-dad glow; I'm really happy for him b/c this is exactly what he wanted and you can just see physically how happy he is which is so much better than how completely miserable he was 2 years ago. Since he's in new dad glow, he's been doing some "my life is so much better now that I have a child" type things. And really, whatever, I don't care. He's happy, I'm happy he's happy.
Then, he posted an article that was basically one of the ugly parents vs. non-parents articles. The blogger was completely sanctimonious and completely assholish. It as more of the "you can't understand", "you're not really tired until", "you don't know love until", "I wish I could have all that free time", "must be nice to do be able to do that" and all of that other BS. And how she had been annoyed with her friends with kids until she had a kid and understood. You know what? If you're ditch your friends b/c of their kid, you're a \#/.
Just b/c I don't have child, doesn't mean I can't understand why your life is like, b/c you're my friend. I have empathy. I see what you're going through. I don't get hepped up about not getting return calls right away. I bend over backwards to try and meet friend's schedules with kids. I come up with things they can bring kids to. And guess what? Since you're my friend? I love your kids just as much as I love you. And for someone, that I've done those very things for, to post an article that just slammed such hurtful and mean statements into my face and then other mutual friends who I love and respect commenting and agreeing with those hurtful things, has really rubbed me raw and the wrong way. Just b/c my life isn't filled with a child, doesn't mean my life isn't full, busy, full of other activities that command as much of my time and energy and brain power as your child does. And for you to find ME and my life insignificant b/c of lack of a child is incredibly hurtful and infuriating.
I even understand that this was probably a bit of a circle jerk of support going on. But it really just doesn't change how ugly the article was and how hurtful it really was to have people discussing "the childless" like it was some sort of Dionysian cult. And I'm really angry and really hurt about it.