Dealing with a huge dilemma. It may not seem huge but with my family everything is a big deal. We are planning our engagement party and I want to include my whole family. Here is where the problem comes in... My family is big, so because of the limited amount of seating for the wedding we are setting an age limit of 18 AND we do not have enough room for my second cousins (some of who are over 18). Do you think it is okay to still invite these people to the engagement party even though they will not be invited to the wedding. And if so, do you think I should put a message in the engagement party invitations about this?