10 days away from wedding & FI wants to add to guest list!

Re: 10 days away from wedding & FI wants to add to guest list!

• kmmssg mod

  

  May 2014

  That is BS that he would throw you under the bus instead of owning his decision.   I think the ship has sailed on inviting them and you need to leave it alone. They will know they were B listed and that is rude. 

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  May 2014

  windie said:

  So my FI is having second thoughts about a couple he took off the guest list before we sent the STDs in January. Our wedding is now 10 days away (May 31st) and last night he told me he felt really bad about not inviting this couple.

  They were neighbors while he was growing up and this couple is like an Aunt & Uncle to him. He originally took them off the list because he hasn't had much contact with them in the last 5 / 10 years - and we had to keep the guest list limited due to our reception venue.

  Now that our final numbers are in - we have the space, so that's not a concern.

  What I am worried about is that these people, who I have never met (FI & I have been together going on 5 years) will be offended at being invited at the last minute. And that FI said (in a semi-joking way) he would blame it on me - that with my spreadsheet of the guest list & addresses that somehow their invite was never sent! I explained to him that I would be concerned that they would be offended at being a last minute invite - but he seems to think they would be okay with it.

  I told him that ultimately it is his decision - he doesn't have a lot of people from his side coming - mostly because he has cut a lot of ties from his past (for good reason!) and is not close with any extended family.  Most of the friends that are coming were "my friends first".

  Any thoughts/suggestions?

  What the actual fuck?!  That isn't something to joke about especially since you don't know nor never even met these people.  Not cool for him wanting to make you look bad in front of people you don't know.

  
  

  Your FI needs to get over it.  He decided to remove them from the list and he should stick with his decision.  Also, that shit where they were "your friends first" is total bull.  The majority of friends at our wedding were H's friends first but over the years they became my friends so now they are OUR friends.  Your FI needs to grow up.

  
  

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• sarawifenow member

  

  May 2014

  This would be total B-listing which is a huge no no in my book. That being said, if your FI wants to invite them, he needs to do it WITHOUT scapegoating you. Screw that! My FI would have a black eye on our wedding day! (Kidding)

  

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  May 2014

  1. This is B-listing and it's rude as fuck

  
  

  2. The fact that your FI would throw you under the bus speaks VOLUMES about his (lack of) character.

  
  

  Do not invite them. Do not let him invite them. 

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• melbenso member

  

  May 2014

  No. Just no. When FI found out that one of his friends from high school couldn't make it (right after invites went out) he suggested we add someone else instead. I refused on the grounds that it was B-listing, even though it was early enough that the newly invited person wouldn't know they had been B-listed. This is even more unacceptable.

  

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• Megalega14 member

  

  June 2014

  it's not even B listing... it's like Z listing with 10 days to go.... if he wants to have a reationship with them, invite them out to lunch so you van actually get to know them!
  

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• IrishPirate60 member

  

  June 2014

  So it's way past the wedding. What happened??
  

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