My hub's ex-stepfather (yeah, modern families are complicated), is currently being tried for two 10+year old child sex abuse cases. It's completely vile and disgusting, and while he hasn't been convicted yet, there is so much evidence that it's in the bag unless his family pays for Woody Allen's lawyer. This all came to light 2 weeks before my wedding, so I uninvited him. I didn't want him anywhere in my sight. It didn't technically matter since he ended up in police custody that day anyway, but his extended family (who sent me gifts etc) abstained from the wedding in solidarity with him, and I've heard they are now making noises that they want me to return my gifts for being "spiteful" and banning him. He sent me gifts before this all came to light so I of course already opened them and sent thank-you notes. I asked DH if I should return them to him on principle, but he thinks that it's unnecessary and while he's a horrible guy, we shouldn't add insult to injury. Should I send back the relative's gifts even if they are already opened? I didn't know about this until it was really too late. Should I return a gift if someone asks me to? Most of the things are kitchen implements that have already been used, but I have their addresses and they all live in town and I could be weird and drop them off on their various porches like the mega creeper I am.
I am so done with this family... so glad that my MIL is at least no longer married to him. I speculate that she suspected something and that had something to do with the divorce. Their kids are 13 and 16, so DH and I have been spending lots of time with them to keep things normal. The 16 year old knows sortof what's up but the 13 year old has no idea. I'm not going to be the bad guy to tell her what her dad did... I wouldn't have the heart. It tears me up when I look at her and think about her finding out eventually. I guess this is less of a question and more of a rant. I can't really talk about this shit with anyone... DH and I are talking about seeing a therapist together just to be able to talk about it with someone other than each other.
My colors are "blood of my enemies" and "rage".