Okay Ladies,
I've come to really respect your opinions so I want to ask your help on this issue.
FSIL is in the bridal party and she is VERY close with MIL - like they're disfunctionally close and at 30 FSIL lives at home and does everything with MIL. It's kind of like shes still 12 and can't go shopping without Mom etc. So, I have let FSIL know that the bridal party are all going to get our hair/makeup done the morning of the wedding and that shes welcome to come join us. I also gave her a rundown of the day thus far and the timing of when the wedding starts etc. She said she wants to join us and will let MIL know but I'm concerned that MIL will assume she is attending the bridal party hair/makeup appt even though I have not discussed it with her at all.
So, I want to mitigate the potential hurt feelings here, and in the event she does assume she's invited how do I best handle it? I want it to be just the bridal party in the morning - is that rude of me?