Bridesmaid Meet and Greet Please Help

Rebekah0Lynn · December 2011

I have chosen my bridesmaids and I would like to plan a get together with them all so they can meet each other. I am at a loss as to how and what to do to accomplish this. Please send ideas!

Maggie0829 · December 2011

I agree with Zitiqueen. Your BMs do not have to meet before the wedding. They do not have to become best friends. Heck, they don't even have to like each other. At the most, I would provide them all with a contact list (phone numbers/emails of all the people included in the bridal party) this way if they decide to throw you a shower or bach party (something that is not required but is a gift and can also be thrown by anyone who volunteers) then they will be able to get a hold of each other. Remeber, these are grown women, and do not need you holding their hands when they meet or talk for the first time.

em01092 · December 2011

Have a wine and a movie night. It's fine to try and have a little social, but just remember that your BMs do not need to be BFFs for your wedding and they may not all get along. Don't push the issue, and if you do have a get together, don't just talk about wedding planning. Be sure to ask them about their lives and find common interests between them.

zitiqueen · December 2011

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[QUOTE]I have chosen my bridesmaids and I would like to plan a get together with them all so they can meet each other. I am at a loss as to how and what to do to accomplish this. Please send ideas!
Posted by Rebekah0Lynn[/QUOTE]

Why do they need to meet each other before the wedding?

rachaelgettingmarried · December 2011

I did something similar to this and it worked out great! My bridesmaids live all over the place, but they were all in town either visiting me or home for the Christmas holidays so I invited them all over for appetizers and wine. We really didn't talk about the wedding much, mostly just sat around my dining room table sharing stories, drinking wine and enjoying the night.

I definitely don't think its something required or that you should feel stressed doing, but if you have the opportunity and want to invite them all over there is nothing wrong with it! For me it particularly helped with my future sister-in-law who is a lot younger than everyone, I think she really felt involved in the group. It was a good time!

ANM2012 · December 2011

My bridesmaids probably won't meet until we pick out dresses and such. We'll make a day of it...shop for dresses, have lunch/early dinner and of course cocktails. It'll be fun. I wouldn't stress over it.

jemmini6 · December 2011

The only people I really cared to have meet before our wedding was our parents. We hosted a BBQ at our house several months before the wedding and invited both sets of parents, friends, BP, etc. It wasn't specifically wedding related, it was just a BBQ with all our closest friends and family, so it worked out really well.

If you do anything, just make it something casual and non-wedding related. Also, don't freak out if anyone can't make it for some reason, it's a nice thought to have people meet, but it's definitely not required and they are not likely to become best friends or anything.

newbergk · June 2014

I'm having a meet and greet in late July for my bridesmaids. You can talk about bridesmaid dresses, colors, anything that you'd like them to help you with (I'm doing a lot of DIY so I'm asking each of them to help me with something so my MOH doesn't feel overwhelmed). I agree that your bridesmaids don't need to become best friends, but i think it's important for them to get to know each other early so they'll feel more comfortable with texting and calling to plan things such as the bridal shower. I realize that these women are grown ups but I think it's much easier to talk to and plan with someone you've met and had some type of connection with (even if their only connection is being your friend!).

OliveOilsMom · June 2014

newbergk said:

I'm having a meet and greet in late July for my bridesmaids. You can talk about bridesmaid dresses, colors, anything that you'd like them to help you with (I'm doing a lot of DIY so I'm asking each of them to help me with something so my MOH doesn't feel overwhelmed). I agree that your bridesmaids don't need to become best friends, but i think it's important for them to get to know each other early so they'll feel more comfortable with texting and calling to plan things such as the bridal shower. I realize that these women are grown ups but I think it's much easier to talk to and plan with someone you've met and had some type of connection with (even if their only connection is being your friend!).

Your BMs and MOH are not free labor. And your MOH isn't supposed to do every little thing to help you plan your wedding. That is what your FI is for. He is the one that needs to help you plan your wedding, since its also his wedding.

There is nothing wrong with hanging out with your BMs, but remember no one will be as excited about your wedding as you are. And you constantly talking about the wedding with your friends will drain them. They also have lives that will be going on throughout the year, so don't forget to talk to them about their life.

And you know these women are adults, but yet you aren't treating them that way. Also, this thread is 3 years old. If you would like to start a discussion, then start a new thread.

@KnotPorscha after de-spamming the boards, can you close this zombie thread.

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