Non-hosted post-wedding breakfast

Re: Non-hosted post-wedding breakfast

• LondonLisa member

  

  June 2014

  It should be strictly word of mouth only. As soon as it is written, it seems like an invitation (which you will have to pay for). Just spread the word saying "h and I are having breakfast at x. The do a good, casual, reasonable brunch. Feel free to join before you head back if you would like". You could include a card in your welcome bag that says "good breakfast at x" in your restaurant recommendations, but as soon as you say you print that you are going, you are correct, it is very ambiguous and seems like you are hosting.

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• ScoutF member

  

  June 2014

  Realistically, I think the only way you can spread word without it coming across as being hosted is doing it by word of mouth.

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• Jen4948 member

  

  June 2014

  If it's important for you to talk to all the OOT guests, then maybe you should actually host something for them rather than having a non-hosted event.

  
  

  But if you're going to do what you propose, then word-of-mouth will be the best way to get across that the breakfast is non-hosted.

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• aniluisa member

  

  June 2014

  Jen4948 said:

  If it's important for you to talk to all the OOT guests, then maybe you should actually host something for them rather than having a non-hosted event.

  
  

  Sorry if I wasn't clear; I do plan to speak with all of my OOT guests. We'll be greeting people as they come into the church before the ceremony, and we'll be doing table visits during the reception. I just think (and I hope that some of our guests agree) that it would be nice to say farewell to people before they leave town, and spend more time with those that I don't see often. Unfortunately, it's not feasible for us to host something that morning.
  
  I just figured that since I have lots of other logistical information on my wedding website/on the inserts, it might make sense to include this piece of information as well. @londonlisa, I like the idea of providing a list of good breakfast places nearby. 

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• phira member

  

  June 2014

  I'd use word of mouth and, if you have one, your wedding website.

  

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• jnissa member

  

  June 2014

  Any time I see any mention of brunch/breakfast the day after, I automatically assume it's hosted. I don't thing there's anything you can formally do that wouldn't come across as hosted, but...

  
  

  On our wedding website, we have a section of restaurant recommendations for oot guests who will be in the Friday before the wedding and need recommendations. It says something like, "Arriving Friday and planning to eat dinner? Here's a list of our favorite places nearby that you may want to try." And then, you know, we listed them with recommendations. You could do the same by creating a casual section on breakfast options nearby for anybody who'll be looking to eat on the day after and then parenthetically mention that you'll be at the place you mentioned. 

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• phira member

  

  June 2014

  I also figure it's kind of like if you were going out for your birthday and you invited people to come with you to a restaurant. "We'll be having breakfast the next morning around [time] at [hotel restaurant]. If you'd like to keep us company, feel free to drop by! Breakfast costs [$X] per person and includes [stuff]."

  

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• aniluisa member

  

  June 2014

  phira said:

  I also figure it's kind of like if you were going out for your birthday and you invited people to come with you to a restaurant. "We'll be having breakfast the next morning around [time] at [hotel restaurant]. If you'd like to keep us company, feel free to drop by! Breakfast costs [$X] per person and includes [stuff]."

  Totally agree with this! So if I include it on my website and/or welcome bag inserts (probably as part of a list of suggested restaurants, like some others have suggested), you think it's ok to mention cost? 

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• Jen4948 member

  

  June 2014

  aniluisa said:

  phira said:

  I also figure it's kind of like if you were going out for your birthday and you invited people to come with you to a restaurant. "We'll be having breakfast the next morning around [time] at [hotel restaurant]. If you'd like to keep us company, feel free to drop by! Breakfast costs [$X] per person and includes [stuff]."

  Totally agree with this! So if I include it on my website and/or welcome bag inserts (probably as part of a list of suggested restaurants, like some others have suggested), you think it's ok to mention cost? 

  This is good wording.  Yeah, giving price ranges is a helpful heads-up.

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• aniluisa member

  

  June 2014

  Thanks all! This is super helpful.

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• offensivekitten2 member

  

  June 2014

  Honestly, what I did was just schedule to have breakfast with my parents, and guests saw us as they came down from their rooms, and joined us. Did we get everyone? No. But by that time we were partied out and an intimate small breakfast was just right.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• MuppetOverlord member

  

  June 2014

  At a wedding my friends had years back, she put a note in the guest baskets that had a bunch of suggestions for things to do in the area and also listed the hotel's breakfast with price. I lived locally, so I didn't go but that's how she did it. I agree with listing it on a wedding website and word of mouth otherwise. I figure most people don't do baskets.

  
  
  You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.

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