Weird things people said to me this weekend.

climbingsingle · June 2014

We went to a 50th birthday party for FI's co-worker's wife (FI owns his own business, but sometimes works with the husband on some jobs).

FI and I were talking to another couple. The husband was super drunk. He was hanging all over FI, telling him what a cool guy he was and that if I left FI, I'd be the one losing out. I jokingly agreed with him and told him that FI was really the catch, not me. This dude then says, "Yeah, man. You're really cool. I don't know about her (meaning me) though. *looks at me* You're dead on the inside."

I was like WTF? It was such a weird thing to say. And I think started taking his comment to heart. Sometimes I can be weird socially and it can take me a while to warm up to people. So I started stressing that people think I'm cold.

A little while after that, a man found out we were getting married. He said right to us, "Don't have kids." which was actually a nice refreshing change of pace from the usual, "OMG YOU'RE NOT HAVING KIDS?!!?" comments we usually get. But still, a comment on our reproductive plans, which is never cool.

And then the guest of honor. I've hung out with her maybe 3 times. They know they're coming to our wedding because they received a STD. At the end of the party (we hung around since we know the owner of the restaurant), guest of honor comes up to me and says, "R, I hope I'm still invited to the wedding." Uhh. Yes. Why would you be disinvited? So weird.

Now please share yours if you had any weird comments this weekend.

HaileyDancingbear · June 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

We went to a 50th birthday party for FI's co-worker's wife (FI owns his own business, but sometimes works with the husband on some jobs).

FI and I were talking to another couple. The husband was super drunk. He was hanging all over FI, telling him what a cool guy he was and that if I left FI, I'd be the one losing out. I jokingly agreed with him and told him that FI was really the catch, not me. This dude then says, "Yeah, man. You're really cool. I don't know about her (meaning me) though. *looks at me* You're dead on the inside."

I was like WTF? It was such a weird thing to say. And I think started taking his comment to heart. Sometimes I can be weird socially and it can take me a while to warm up to people. So I started stressing that people think I'm cold.

A little while after that, a man found out we were getting married. He said right to us, "Don't have kids." which was actually a nice refreshing change of pace from the usual, "OMG YOU'RE NOT HAVING KIDS?!!?" comments we usually get. But still, a comment on our reproductive plans, which is never cool.

And then the guest of honor. I've hung out with her maybe 3 times. They know they're coming to our wedding because they received a STD. At the end of the party (we hung around since we know the owner of the restaurant), guest of honor comes up to me and says, "R, I hope I'm still invited to the wedding." Uhh. Yes. Why would you be disinvited? So weird.

Now please share yours if you had any weird comments this weekend.

Ugh I know that feel. The only thing worse is when someone has a problem with shy people and puts me on the spot like "You're so QUIET, Why don't you SAY something? C'mon, we're all friends here, don't you feel comfortable?" Which is just a double whammy for me, because first off, I HATE being put on the spot in social situations. Second, it then puts the idea in everyone's head that I'm quiet because I don't like them, when really, that's just the way I am. I can be among friends, LOVE spending that time with them, and still only say like, two things all night. Sometimes I just like to sit back and listen to what others have to say, you know? Doesn't mean I'm cold or anything.

Those people don't usually see much of me after that. I honestly think it's really friggin mean to see someone's having a hard time socializing and just put them on the spot like that.

And seriously, "Dead inside?" What a total douche. Ignore him, decent people don't just say that to others, especially to people who aren't even doing anything mean at the time.

SapphireCounselor · June 2014

Sounds like that party was a big bag of weird. At least you are taking it in stride. I did hear weird comments over the weekend, but it wasn't cause for concern as I was hanging out with my 5-year-old nephew. That kid is so random, but cute and funny. He says some of the craziest stuff. I fail though because I can't remember any specifics right now though other than that he has joined a little league team and is now obsessed with baseball. It will come to me and then I'll post it.

wandajune6 · June 2014

That was odd...

We allowed our house to be used for an 8th grad graduation pool party. I was told that I was "cute for a white girl." That was awkward.

Yesterday, my niece kept asking if "wandajune6 go poopoo too?". She's in the early stages of potty training and thinks everyone else needs to be trained too!

Kauris · June 2014

I'm sorry you had such rude/weird people saying such weird/rude things.

I showed a woman I work with a picture of my BMs dresses and she said, "Well, they sure are going to outshine you!" So I was a little bummed, not that I want my BMs to look and feel anything but beautiful, and I think they will be, but on the inside, I don't necessarily want to be outshone...

BTW, here is a pic of the BM dress. They are gorgeous, I think it is going to look great and is perfect for a brunch wedding!

sarahufl · June 2014

kasmith1 said:

I'm sorry you had such rude/weird people saying such weird/rude things.

I showed a woman I work with a picture of my BMs dresses and she said, "Well, they sure are going to outshine you!" So I was a little bummed, not that I want my BMs to look and feel anything but beautiful, and I think they will be, but on the inside, I don't necessarily want to be outshone...

BTW, here is a pic of the BM dress. They are gorgeous, I think it is going to look great and is perfect for a brunch wedding!

*STUCK*

While that is certainly rude, those bridesmaids dresses are awesome!

lovesclimbing · June 2014

sarahufl said:

kasmith1 said:

I'm sorry you had such rude/weird people saying such weird/rude things.

I showed a woman I work with a picture of my BMs dresses and she said, "Well, they sure are going to outshine you!" So I was a little bummed, not that I want my BMs to look and feel anything but beautiful, and I think they will be, but on the inside, I don't necessarily want to be outshone...

BTW, here is a pic of the BM dress. They are gorgeous, I think it is going to look great and is perfect for a brunch wedding!

*STUCK*

While that is certainly rude, those bridesmaids dresses are awesome!

And kudos for picking a dress they can wear again! I would certainly wear it again.

aprilster · June 2014

Those dresses look lovely kasmith! Some people just have a talent for rude comments, one just has to learn to trust your own taste and decisions and don't listen to those negative people!

climbingsingle · June 2014

@kasmith1 I think those dresses are great. I don't think they'll outshine you.

JMalettas · June 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

We went to a 50th birthday party for FI's co-worker's wife (FI owns his own business, but sometimes works with the husband on some jobs).

FI and I were talking to another couple. The husband was super drunk. He was hanging all over FI, telling him what a cool guy he was and that if I left FI, I'd be the one losing out. I jokingly agreed with him and told him that FI was really the catch, not me. This dude then says, "Yeah, man. You're really cool. I don't know about her (meaning me) though. *looks at me* You're dead on the inside."

I was like WTF? It was such a weird thing to say. And I think started taking his comment to heart. Sometimes I can be weird socially and it can take me a while to warm up to people. So I started stressing that people think I'm cold.

A little while after that, a man found out we were getting married. He said right to us, "Don't have kids." which was actually a nice refreshing change of pace from the usual, "OMG YOU'RE NOT HAVING KIDS?!!?" comments we usually get. But still, a comment on our reproductive plans, which is never cool.

And then the guest of honor. I've hung out with her maybe 3 times. They know they're coming to our wedding because they received a STD. At the end of the party (we hung around since we know the owner of the restaurant), guest of honor comes up to me and says, "R, I hope I'm still invited to the wedding." Uhh. Yes. Why would you be disinvited? So weird.

Now please share yours if you had any weird comments this weekend.

Obviously, said drunk guy is a douche. There's always those few people you know that turn into idiots while drunk. Hang all over you, or go on and on about something that either no one wants to hear, or says something completely inappropriate. It's usually better to just avoid these people in "boozey" situations. *Especially* coworkers!

As far as the "no kids" comment, I dunno. I constantly get the WHEN ARE YOU HAVING KIDS...ARE YOU TRYING YET??..BABIES SOON?? I've just given up on caring. At first I found it kind of annoying, and it's definitely repetitive, but whatever. I've just let it go. Getting annoyed definitely doesn't stop anyone!

The last comment from the woman who said she "hopes she's still invited" would raise a question mark to me. I'd actually likely ask your FI why she might say that. (I'm assuming it's someone he knows through work)? It just isn't a normal thing to say, unless she feels she has reason to be uninvited.

As for me, I haven't had any weird comments come at me lately! Although, a number of times in my life, and in the somewhat recent past, I've been asked what country I'm from? Which I always find weird. I was born in Canada, & both my parents are from Canada. Anytime I respond with that answer, I get "oh, you look like you'd be from somewhere else." I don't know how to take that? Not that I'm offended by any means, but I just don't understand. My mom's side is Italian, and my dad's is Irish & dutch..so apparently that makes some exotic mix! Lol. I just always find that comment weird.

*J

theartistformerlyknownas · June 2014

I'd honestly try to let the 'dead inside' comment go. It doesn't sound like he was sober enough to accurately rate your social skills. Maybe that's just his go-to line that's really only funny to him. When I was in college, I hung out with this girl who would always follow up any statement about something someone hated with "Hitler hated the Jews" with an icy cold stare. They'd look like a deer in the headlights, thinking they were being shamed for using the word 'hate' so loosely, then she'd burst out laughing. Funny to some, incredibly offensive to others.

climbingsingle · June 2014

JMalettas said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

We went to a 50th birthday party for FI's co-worker's wife (FI owns his own business, but sometimes works with the husband on some jobs).

FI and I were talking to another couple. The husband was super drunk. He was hanging all over FI, telling him what a cool guy he was and that if I left FI, I'd be the one losing out. I jokingly agreed with him and told him that FI was really the catch, not me. This dude then says, "Yeah, man. You're really cool. I don't know about her (meaning me) though. *looks at me* You're dead on the inside."

I was like WTF? It was such a weird thing to say. And I think started taking his comment to heart. Sometimes I can be weird socially and it can take me a while to warm up to people. So I started stressing that people think I'm cold.

A little while after that, a man found out we were getting married. He said right to us, "Don't have kids." which was actually a nice refreshing change of pace from the usual, "OMG YOU'RE NOT HAVING KIDS?!!?" comments we usually get. But still, a comment on our reproductive plans, which is never cool.

And then the guest of honor. I've hung out with her maybe 3 times. They know they're coming to our wedding because they received a STD. At the end of the party (we hung around since we know the owner of the restaurant), guest of honor comes up to me and says, "R, I hope I'm still invited to the wedding." Uhh. Yes. Why would you be disinvited? So weird.

Now please share yours if you had any weird comments this weekend.

Obviously, said drunk guy is a douche. There's always those few people you know that turn into idiots while drunk. Hang all over you, or go on and on about something that either no one wants to hear, or says something completely inappropriate. It's usually better to just avoid these people in "boozey" situations. *Especially* coworkers!

As far as the "no kids" comment, I dunno. I constantly get the WHEN ARE YOU HAVING KIDS...ARE YOU TRYING YET??..BABIES SOON?? I've just given up on caring. At first I found it kind of annoying, and it's definitely repetitive, but whatever. I've just let it go. Getting annoyed definitely doesn't stop anyone!

The last comment from the woman who said she "hopes she's still invited" would raise a question mark to me. I'd actually likely ask your FI why she might say that. (I'm assuming it's someone he knows through work)? It just isn't a normal thing to say, unless she feels she has reason to be uninvited.

As for me, I haven't had any weird comments come at me lately! Although, a number of times in my life, and in the somewhat recent past, I've been asked what country I'm from? Which I always find weird. I was born in Canada, & both my parents are from Canada. Anytime I respond with that answer, I get "oh, you look like you'd be from somewhere else." I don't know how to take that? Not that I'm offended by any means, but I just don't understand. My mom's side is Italian, and my dad's is Irish & dutch..so apparently that makes some exotic mix! Lol. I just always find that comment weird.

*J

It was really strange what she said. And she said it in front of FI, so he heard it too. FI owns his own business and sometimes works on jobs together with the woman's husband. We really don't seem them socially that often.

ladyamanuet · June 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

JMalettas said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

We went to a 50th birthday party for FI's co-worker's wife (FI owns his own business, but sometimes works with the husband on some jobs).

FI and I were talking to another couple. The husband was super drunk. He was hanging all over FI, telling him what a cool guy he was and that if I left FI, I'd be the one losing out. I jokingly agreed with him and told him that FI was really the catch, not me. This dude then says, "Yeah, man. You're really cool. I don't know about her (meaning me) though. *looks at me* You're dead on the inside."

I was like WTF? It was such a weird thing to say. And I think started taking his comment to heart. Sometimes I can be weird socially and it can take me a while to warm up to people. So I started stressing that people think I'm cold.

A little while after that, a man found out we were getting married. He said right to us, "Don't have kids." which was actually a nice refreshing change of pace from the usual, "OMG YOU'RE NOT HAVING KIDS?!!?" comments we usually get. But still, a comment on our reproductive plans, which is never cool.

And then the guest of honor. I've hung out with her maybe 3 times. They know they're coming to our wedding because they received a STD. At the end of the party (we hung around since we know the owner of the restaurant), guest of honor comes up to me and says, "R, I hope I'm still invited to the wedding." Uhh. Yes. Why would you be disinvited? So weird.

Now please share yours if you had any weird comments this weekend.

Obviously, said drunk guy is a douche. There's always those few people you know that turn into idiots while drunk. Hang all over you, or go on and on about something that either no one wants to hear, or says something completely inappropriate. It's usually better to just avoid these people in "boozey" situations. *Especially* coworkers!

As far as the "no kids" comment, I dunno. I constantly get the WHEN ARE YOU HAVING KIDS...ARE YOU TRYING YET??..BABIES SOON?? I've just given up on caring. At first I found it kind of annoying, and it's definitely repetitive, but whatever. I've just let it go. Getting annoyed definitely doesn't stop anyone!

The last comment from the woman who said she "hopes she's still invited" would raise a question mark to me. I'd actually likely ask your FI why she might say that. (I'm assuming it's someone he knows through work)? It just isn't a normal thing to say, unless she feels she has reason to be uninvited.

As for me, I haven't had any weird comments come at me lately! Although, a number of times in my life, and in the somewhat recent past, I've been asked what country I'm from? Which I always find weird. I was born in Canada, & both my parents are from Canada. Anytime I respond with that answer, I get "oh, you look like you'd be from somewhere else." I don't know how to take that? Not that I'm offended by any means, but I just don't understand. My mom's side is Italian, and my dad's is Irish & dutch..so apparently that makes some exotic mix! Lol. I just always find that comment weird.

*J

It was really strange what she said. And she said it in front of FI, so he heard it too. FI owns his own business and sometimes works on jobs together with the woman's husband. We really don't seem them socially that often.

Maybe she overheard or found out about her husband being a douche canoe?

kaitlynmichelle · June 2014

I complimented a customer on her halo ring this weekend. Not my style but it looked beautiful (multiple halos forming a small wedding band, really cool). She said "well it cost a fortune so of course someone like you would love it."

Um, what? I don't have a massive rock on my hand but my ring is still gorgeous so I don't know what her problem was. She was maybe 60 so I'm hoping she meant because I'm young. But still, I found it really rude.

climbingsingle · June 2014

kaitlynmichelle said:

I complimented a customer on her halo ring this weekend. Not my style but it looked beautiful (multiple halos forming a small wedding band, really cool). She said "well it cost a fortune so of course someone like you would love it." Um, what? I don't have a massive rock on my hand but my ring is still gorgeous so I don't know what her problem was. She was maybe 60 so I'm hoping she meant because I'm young. But still, I found it really rude.

Damn, that's really rude!

beethery · June 2014

If anyone ever told me I was dead inside (which I don't think anyone would... unless I was really trying to outwardly show that I was having a 100% miserable time at whatever I was attending), I would probably say that's good, Im' that much closer to achieving Wednesday Addams status.

kaitlynmichelle · June 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

kaitlynmichelle said:

I complimented a customer on her halo ring this weekend. Not my style but it looked beautiful (multiple halos forming a small wedding band, really cool). She said "well it cost a fortune so of course someone like you would love it."

Um, what? I don't have a massive rock on my hand but my ring is still gorgeous so I don't know what her problem was. She was maybe 60 so I'm hoping she meant because I'm young. But still, I found it really rude.

Damn, that's really rude!

Right?! I'm hoping it was a misinterpretation on my part but I can't think of how it wasn't rude. I've had people compliment my ring many times and I always thank them (and mean it) but I would never say anything like that to someone.

FiancB · June 2014

beethery said:

If anyone ever told me I was dead inside (which I don't think anyone would... unless I was really trying to outwardly show that I was having a 100% miserable time at whatever I was attending), I would probably say that's good, Im' that much closer to achieving Wednesday Addams status.

SITB

Someone actually told me I reminded them of Wednesday Addams once. I never actually saw The Addams Family, but I'm guessing that's pretty similar to telling someone they're dead inside. I'm sorry OP, I HATE it when people say stuff like that! People always tell me I'm quiet too, or seem uncomfortable, and it's like umm so that was supposed to make me more comfortable?

I just moved in to FGMIL's downstairs apartment. FGMIL is 99 years old and is rather conservative on certain things. FI was kind of stressed about her and his uncle (who also lives here) finding out about my tattoo, knowing that they hate tattoos. We were going to just leave it alone til the wedding, but when we decided to move in we decided it was best that they know about it so FI's parents told them (or at least the uncle) about it and they didn't really care. Up until now they never saw it because it's on my shoulder and I kept it covered.

Well on move-in day I couldn't get to a change of clothes so I wore the same tank top that I'd worn the day before, which showed my tattoo. I had just gotten there and we were all in the kitchen and FGMIL took it upon herself to show me something in the paper, a Dear Abby sort of thing, titled "Think Before You Ink". Uhhh...

I don't know if FGMIL knew I had a tattoo or not. Maybe she missed the convo from FILs. She is damn near deaf so maybe she misheard and thought I was just thinking about getting a tattoo and thought she'd save me. Or maybe she's a BSC mean old bat. I kinda do hope that maybe she didn't realize and hadn't noticed yet and has since seen it and been thoroughly embarrassed. IDK though. I haven't told FI about it. He has a tattoo as well but has kept it hidden.

TL;DR: I just moved in with possibly BSC mean old bat granny who, probably knowing I have a tattoo, very much wanted me to read an article called Think Before You Ink. Because there is no way I mulled over this tattoo for years before getting it and tattoos are always impulse, dumb decisions.

beethery · June 2014

FiancB said:

beethery said:

If anyone ever told me I was dead inside (which I don't think anyone would... unless I was really trying to outwardly show that I was having a 100% miserable time at whatever I was attending), I would probably say that's good, Im' that much closer to achieving Wednesday Addams status.

TL;DR: I just moved in with possibly BSC mean old bat granny who, probably knowing I have a tattoo, very much wanted me to read an article called Think Before You Ink. Because there is no way I mulled over this tattoo for years before getting it and tattoos are always impulse, dumb decisions.

It is going to be an ugly ugly day in the Beethery Parent household should they ever realize I have some huge fuckin tattoos. When it comes to stuff like that, I make an executive decision about who is on a 'Need To Know' basis. If you are a judgy shit, you don't need to know, and my parents and other family members fall into that category.

Maybe your BSC landlady grandmomma in-law will forget. Lord knows she's old as hell. I forget shit all the time and I'm not even 30. If she brings it up again, tell her she's letting tv and life run together lol

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