Did you and your bridesmaids get your hair/makeup done together?

lucieanne · June 2014

I'm getting married in about a month, and plan on doing my hair/make up with a local beauty salon. It's probably one of the more expensive salons in town ($65 - 135 for hair/makeup package), so I let my bridesmaids know in advance that they were more than welcome to have their services done elswhere. I guess I was expecting only one or two of my 5 bridesmaids to go to a different salon though - I was surprised when all of them except my maid of honor said that they couldn't afford to go to the same salon as me!

It's not important to me that my bridesmaids spend a lot of money to be at the same salon as me. I just want us to be together, and the salon has a lounge for bridal parties and I was thinking we could all drink mimosas in there and some of them could start their makeup. Today though I found out that the lounge may only be able to be reserved if all of the guests using it have their services done at that particular salon - i.e., only my MoH and I could use it, the other 4 girls would have to get ready seperately.

I'm so not a bridezilla, but I was really disappointed to hear that; I always imagined that the day before my wedding, my best friends and I would be together. Hair/makeup takes about 2 hours at this place, and that's a long time to be separated. I am pretty much fixed about using this salon (Switching to a cheaper salon would probably not make a difference in convincing the girls to come, anywyay, since they're all wanting to do their own hair and makeup), so changing salons is not an option.

Were you and your bridesmaids together while getting ready?? What was your experience?

Thanks everybody.

edit: no need to try to 'disenchant' the idea of everyone getting ready the morning of - I appreciate it, but really I'd just like to know what your experiences were with your BMs the day of your wedding. In both weddings I've been in, we all got ready together, so that's how I've imagined it for my own wedding; I'd just like to know how other people have done it, and if they'd have done anything differently, since I personally haven't experienced it any other way

climbingsingle · June 2014

If you want all of your BMs to be at this salon the morning of, then you should pay for them to have their hair/makeup done there. You can't have it both ways.

I think you need to scratch this cutesy idea of all getting ready together the morning of. It's honestly usually not as you imagine. I've been in enough weddings to know. Any time we've all gotten ready at a salon, it was crazy hectic.

I'm getting ready at the suite at my venue. My MOH will be with me getting her makeup/hair done because I'm paying for it for her.

Maggie0829 · June 2014

kelseycally said:

I'm getting married in about a month, and plan on doing my hair/make up with a local beauty salon. It's probably one of the more expensive salons in town ($65 - 135 for hair/makeup package), so I let my bridesmaids know in advance that they were more than welcome to have their services done elswhere. I guess I was expecting only one or two of my 5 bridesmaids to go to a different salon though - I was surprised when all of them except my maid of honor said that they couldn't afford to go to the same salon as me!

It's not important to me that my bridesmaids spend a lot of money to be at the same salon as me. I just want us to be together, and the salon has a lounge for bridal parties and I was thinking we could all drink mimosas in there and some of them could start their makeup. Today though I found out that the lounge may only be able to be reserved if all of the guests using it have their services done at that particular salon - i.e., only my MoH and I could use it, the other 4 girls would have to get ready seperately.

I'm so not a bridezilla, but I was really disappointed to hear that; I always imagined that the day before my wedding, my best friends and I would be together. Hair/makeup takes about 2 hours at this place, and that's a long time to be separated. I am pretty much fixed about using this salon (Switching to a cheaper salon would probably not make a difference in convincing the girls to come, anywyay, since they're all wanting to do their own hair and makeup), so changing salons is not an option.

Were you and your bridesmaids together while getting ready?? What was your experience?
Thanks everybody.

You need to let your vision go. Your BMs can't afford to get ready at the salon that you want to get ready at so there really isn't anything you can do.

Yes, all of my BMs (only had two) were together when we got our hair and makeup done but guess what? We really didn't talk that much or do much because well we were busy getting ready. We had it done at my home and I was running around making sure I had everything ready to go, my sister was taking care of her daughter and my other BM was talking to the hair and makeup stylist because she works with them and knows them. Then as we each were getting beautified I would go upstairs and talk to my Mom, sit and play with my niece, go and fix myself a bagel, etc. So really, it isn't some crazy bonding experience that you are thinking it is. And honestly, sitting in a salon waiting for people to get done (which I have done many times) is really quite boring and certainly not as much fun as you are thinking it will be.

lucieanne · June 2014

I had a different experience - being in my friend's wedding, I loved us all getting ready together. Not for it being 'cutesy' or for making good pictures, I just enjoyed all of us being together and drinking a little while getting ready.

But you're right! If it were that much of an issue, I should pay for their services. That's why I left my post with the question 'what was your experience like,' not 'what should I do.' I'd just like to hear what others' experiences were. Thanks for the advice!

lucieanne · June 2014

Thanks for the advice. As I said in my previous comment, I've really enjoyed my experience with getting ready to be in another friend's wedding, even if it was crazy at times, I was glad for us all to be together. It's good to know that it is not a must-do for everyone on the wedding day, though.

Maggie0829 · June 2014

kelseycally said:

Thanks for the advice. As I said in my previous comment, I've really enjoyed my experience with getting ready to be in another friend's wedding, even if it was crazy at times, I was glad for us all to be together. It's good to know that it is not a must-do for everyone on the wedding day, though.

Just remember that you will all be together when it counts and that is when you are all standing up front at the ceremony.

AddieCake · June 2014

We were not together. They were off setting up the reception venue while I got ready. Because I got married in the morning, it just wasn't feasible for us to have time to get ready together unless we had hired someone to do setup. I was not bummed at all. I really don't like getting ready with other people anyway.

KPBM89 · June 2014

The last wedding I was in, most of us got our hair done at the same salon. One girl had short hair so she just hung out there with us. We were on different sides of the salon so being together didn't make a difference. I was asked to get my nails done with them the day before, but I couldn't afford the salon they went to for that so I just said no and got mine done with my mom the morning of.

My hair stylist is actually a good family friend and is invited to our wedding. That morning, she and her plus one (her friend who also works at the same salon with her) are coming to my hotel room to do my hair and my mom's hair. I'm still working out the details with her and my bridesmaids to see if they want to get theirs done, too, but I don't care if the girls would rather go elsewhere or do it on their own. I will most likely spend all that time talking to my hair stylist anyway, catching up on all our random gossip.

tammym1001 · June 2014

My 4 BM's, my mom, and I spent the entire day of my wedding together. We had hair, make up, and nails done at the salon while we munched on bagels and drank mimosas. Then we went back to a private villa I had rented and had lunch together and got dressed before the photographer came to do pictures. It was a lot of fun and I'm glad that I had them with me because it helped calm my nerves a little. I really did enjoy it, but none of my BM's would have been able to do that if I hadn't paid for them to get ready at the salon. I paid everyone's bill, including my moms, so that I could ensure everyone was able to be there with me.

thelastdreamer · June 2014

I am planning on getting ready with all of my bridesmaids in our hotel suite, but I am paying for everyone to have their hair and makeup done if they want it.

buddysmom80 · June 2014

I have one MOH and 2 BMs. The only person who is getting their hair and makeup with me is my MOH and my mom. I'm paying for my mom, and gave the option to the BP, the only one who wanted to get their hair and makeup done was my MOH. It's not the end of the world.

vsgal · June 2014

I only had a maid of honor and she showed up at my hotel at 3:00. My wedding was at 4:00. We got ready separately. She wanted to use her own stylist and make up artist. I was fine with that.

SoontobeMrsNytes · June 2014

I had my 3 bridesmaids, 2 flower girls, and both my H's mom and my mom get ready with me in my suite at the hotel. I paid for all of them to have their hair and makeup done. It was a mad house! It was nice to have my bridesmaids and mom and daughter with me, but H's mom and the other flower girl made me crazy! At one point, I actually had to leave the room because I seriously thought they were about to induce a panic attack. Limit who and how many people you have with you. It is so easy to become overwhelmed.

tammym1001 · June 2014

I wanted to come back and add that while I did really enjoy having everyone with me, I went into my room and got into my dress by myself. It was nice to have a few moments alone and kind of focus on what was about to happen that day.

RissAnn1970 · June 2014

Nope. I had my hairdresser come to my house, where I also did my own makeup. I got into my dress & stuff at the venue. The chicks did their own hair & makeup, I believe. They were in the bridal room with me while I was getting dressed, but I think some came in their dresses, maybe one got dressed there? I don't even remember.

erollis · June 2014

Way before I was ever on TK (2004) I was a BM in a friends wedding (fresh out of High School). At that point we were all brainwashed by the wedding industry. I planned the bachelorette party (bride didn't pay for anything) which was a night eating and dancing at under 21 clubs. We all thought we had to look the same and I booked us appointments at a hair salon school for the day of. We all paid our own way and it was incredibly inexpensive (less then $25 for a updo). It was nice getting it done together.

Years later I still went above and beyond as a BM (still brainwashed). But it was the bridezilla making expensive and uncomfortable demands. Nails had to be done, make up professionally done, hair done, etc. I complied because I thought I had to but wasn't thrilled about what it was costing me. It was still nice getting ready together tho.

For my wedding (educated by TK now) I said I would like us all to get ready (hair and make up) at the hotel. All but one BM was there. We all used and did our own makeup. We styled our own hair. Even me! It was enjoyable. Plus we had Jumanji playing on the tv. My sister had never seen it before!

Maggie0829 · June 2014

erollis said:

Way before I was ever on TK (2004) I was a BM in a friends wedding (fresh out of High School). At that point we were all brainwashed by the wedding industry. I planned the bachelorette party (bride didn't pay for anything) which was a night eating and dancing at under 21 clubs. We all thought we had to look the same and I booked us appointments at a hair salon school for the day of. We all paid our own way and it was incredibly inexpensive (less then $25 for a updo). It was nice getting it done together. Years later I still went above and beyond as a BM (still brainwashed). But it was the bridezilla making expensive and uncomfortable demands. Nails had to be done, make up professionally done, hair done, etc. I complied because I thought I had to but wasn't thrilled about what it was costing me. It was still nice getting ready together tho. For my wedding (educated by TK now) I said I would like us all to get ready (hair and make up) at the hotel. All but one BM was there. We all used and did our own makeup. We styled our own hair. Even me! It was enjoyable. Plus we had Jumanji playing on the tv. My sister had never seen it before!

I love that movie!!

[Deleted User] · June 2014

I had a total of 4 BM. Two of them lived on the same side of town as me & the other two lived on the other side of town (about 30-45 minutes apart). The church was roughly half way between us. I extended the same type of invite to my girls that you did. I provided prices for the services & told them it was up to them. The two girls who lived on the other side of town opted out. The two that lived near me & the salon opted in. My thinking why make them drive across town to hang out with us while we get our hair & makeup done when they can be at home relaxing & getting ready themselves. We meet at the church at a specific time where we had drinks & I had a sandwich tray for lunch. We chatted, relaxed & got dressed together. So we did get ready together, just not fully ready together. But for the big par which was putting the dresses & accessories on. To me that was the fun part, haning out and seeing everyone as they finished getting dressed.

erollis · June 2014

@Maggie0829‌ it is a great movie! Having it on was a great way to start the day.

MyNameIsNot · June 2014

I planned a hair/make up person to come to me. That way, my BMs were able to get ready at my house whether they booked services or did their own. I was smart enough to know that it was still unlikely that everyone would choose to get ready at my house, but it opened it up so that everyone could come without having to pay. It turned out that everyone did at least some of the getting ready there.

If you really want the experience of getting ready with a group, plan it so that it doesn't cost people. Booking an expensive salon is the same as deliberately excluding people. If the expensive salon is your dream, it's fine, but you shouldn't be surprised that most people aren't doing that with you.

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