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Multiple Favors?

edited June 2014 in Wedding Reception Forum
Would you think it is really weird if there were 3 favors at a wedding?
Background: 
My parents are paying for the wedding. When I said I was going to skip favors, they said that I really needed to have them, people would expect them, and they wanted a keepsake for my wedding. Fine, they are paying so we would have favors. They were adamant that FI and I could choose whatever we wanted. 

My BFF had personalized playing cards as the favors at her wedding, and I had said at the time that if I ever got married I wanted to do those too because it was awesome. FI didn't like the playing cards because he thought they looked cheap, and wanted to do etched glass coasters. He knew about coasters as favors because I have a set from another friend who got married ten years ago that we still use. I didn't really care, so we went with coasters. I talked to my parents and showed them what we were thinking about before we ordered and got enthusiastic responses from both. We have them, they look really nice, my parents really like them, so I thought we were good. 

After that, I got a long story about how my dad wished we would have the personalized playing cards because he still carries around the cards he got at my BFF's wedding (we have been friends since we were 7) and how he wanted to be able to do the same with the favor from my wedding. So now I feel guilty that dad is disappointed and surprised at how much a favor meant to him. He also really wants a few decks of playing cards at each table because it gives people something to do if they aren't into dancing (which most people invited are not). If personalized cards aren't an option, then he wants to get decks at the dollar store to put out on the tables at the reception. 

Yesterday my mom said she really, really wants candy on the tables at the reception so people have something sweet to nibble on if they want. She already purchased pretty little bags that the chocolate could go in and wanted to know if it was ok if she made them up and we put them on the tables at the reception. 

So now it looks like we are going to have THREE(!) favors at the reception, which I think is really silly. I have said that I think it is weird to have 3 favors, but my parents are all for it and think it doesn't matter. I am going to let my parents have what they want because they are paying and this is really just not a hill I would die on. But is there another option? Should we order the personalized playing cards too so my dad will be happy? Or just go the dollar store route?

ETA:  TK ate my paragraphs.

Re: Multiple Favors?

  • Why not? I love favors.
  • I've been to weddings with multiple favors and didn't find it odd.  More of like "Wow, they really went all out."  Of course on the flip side it took me two years to realize someone didn't have favors at their wedding.  

    I think if you go the card route make them an actual favor.  Personally, I would never break open a deck of cards at a wedding and start playing.  I would view that as rude.  So I'd be confused by the random dollar store cards unless you had some sort of casino theme going.  
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  • I don't think there's anything wrong with having that many favors. Is it a little overkill? Maybe, but who cares. If your parents are paying and they want them then I don't see the harm. I would go with the personalized cards though because just random cards would seem weird to me.

    FWIW, we did bottles of wine as favors at our wedding. I wanted something that guests could have right then though so I did boxes of candy as the escort cards. Is that possible instead of having a third favor? Then it actually serves a purpose and your mom gets her candy. We also did personalized decks of cards, but we had them at our after party. 
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  • If they are willing to pay for it all, then let them each have their way. It's not worth the battle
  • My initial reaction was "God your parents are knit-picky" but then it changed to "I wish my parents cared that much about a damn keepsake". So sure why not, go for it! lol

                                                                     

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  • edited June 2014
    I am glad that others don't find it odd. It makes me feel better, if nothing else, to know that it is something that other people have seen and done. I just had never seen it before. Consensus seems to be to go ahead and do the personalized playing cards, so my dad will be extra happy. I hadn't considered that it may be confusing if they didn't look like real favors. Good point! We will go ahead and get the personalized ones I think. @tammym1001 Using the candy as the escort cards is a great idea! I will mention that to my mom tonight when we are working on invitations. I think she will love that idea, and I love that it serves a purpose (other than being delicious). ETA: TK ate my paragraphs again, but when I go to edit they are still there.
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