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Response card wording

kla728kla728 member
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I would love to get feedback on our response card language (see attached or below... I had a hard time attaching the doc so I wrote it out and then ultimately was able to get it to attach.  go figure!).  I've got mixed feelings on it at this point.

"The favor of your response is requested
by September 30, 2014

We have reserved __ seats in your honor.

M________________________________

(circle) happily accept (circle) regretfully decline

___ adults ___ children under 12

Kindly inform us of any special dietary needs:
_____________________________________ "


I liked the idea of 'we have reserved __ seats in your honor' because we have big, complicated families and we want to be clear about who is invited and who gets a plus one.  We have dozens of cousins and unfortunately we aren't able to extend a plus one to those that aren't in relationships (those guests will be IDed by name and we have done several rounds of checking on relationship status).  That said, almost everyone will be traveling a fair distance for our wedding (3-6 hours) and I think its unlikely they would invite a random guest.  So maybe that line is totally unnecessary?  

Also, I need to know kids under 12 for my venue.  But does it look weird to have the '(circle) happily accept (circle) regretfully decline' and then also have the '__ adults ___ children under 12'?  Would it be more straight forward to do something like the below?

__ happily accept __ regretfully decline
__ children under 12

Thanks in advance ladies!
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Re: Response card wording

  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Well, the one thing I would suggest (other posters may have other suggestions) is to just use "accept" and "decline" rather than "happily accept" and "regretfully decline."
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  • beachyone15beachyone15 member
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    It seems a little wordy. I like your second suggestion:
    ___accepts
    ___declines
    ___children under 12

    Also, not sure what your venue is like but mine told me (when I mentioned that I had medically-gluten intolerant guests) that they could accommodate them, but not to ask for everyone's dietary restrictions as this will slow down the kitchen. You'll probably get a lot of responses about what people "prefer" (low salt, dairy-free, etc) rather than what they medically require. Just a thought.


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  • kla728kla728 member
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    Thanks @Jen4948 - any particular reason why you prefer not using that wording?  I know its a bit less formal and also contributes to the wordiness.  Just curious :)

    @Sarah1551 That is really interesting!  I assumed this was just a smart thing to do, but now that I think about it I don't see it that often on the response cards ladies post on here.  Maybe this is why.  I know our kitchen can accommodate pretty much whatever, and we have at least a handful of guests that need GF, but we do know about most of those needs and I'm sure they would tell us if we don't know.

    Also, we're serving a duet so if we don't ask this then how will we know who wants a vegetarian meal?  Probably a question for my on-site coordinator :)
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    kla728 said:
    Thanks @Jen4948 - any particular reason why you prefer not using that wording?  I know its a bit less formal and also contributes to the wordiness.  Just curious :)

    Stuck in box...

    I guess because guests don't always "happily" accept or "regretfully" decline.  In any case, it seems a little presumptuous to assume how they feel about their response.
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  • kla728kla728 member
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    @Jen4948 That is definitely true.  I have to wonder if people would actually be bothered by this though -- I just see it as an extension of the bride and grooms excitement for their wedding day, you know?  Guess that doesn't always flow to all the guests :)  I remember seeing one bride on here mention that she considered adding regretfully accepts and happily declines as additional options.  That could be interesting!
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    kla728 said:
    @Jen4948 That is definitely true.  I have to wonder if people would actually be bothered by this though -- I just see it as an extension of the bride and grooms excitement for their wedding day, you know?  Guess that doesn't always flow to all the guests :)  I remember seeing one bride on here mention that she considered adding regretfully accepts and happily declines as additional options.  That could be interesting!

    It certainly could!  But no one is ever going to be as excited about a wedding as the couple, so I wouldn't try to dictate their emotions on the RSVPs.

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