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Rehearsal Dinner Invites

Simky906Simky906 member
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edited June 2014 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
Is there an appropriate way to send a rehearsal dinner invite? Should they be mailed differently from the wedding invitation or can we include them as an insert?

 I also need some help with our wording. We will have an Italian buffet but in order to stay reasonably on budget, the buffet is only open for an hour. There won't be a problem with my family since if you tell them something starts at 6, then they're there at 5:50. FI's family is quite different and at his cousin's RD, people were showing up 2 hours late. As I don't want anyone to miss dinner, would something like the following wording be appropriate? 

 Join bride and groom for their rehearsal dinner 
6PM on Friday September fifth 
in the wedding hotel courtyard 
dinner will be served from 6-7PM followed by dessert 
RSVP to bride at phone number 
by August 23rd
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Invites

  • STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    Ha! I'm mean but I'd love for the rude late people to miss dinner. Serves them right.

    I don't see a problem with listing the time range on the invite. It sounds like this isn't a formal occasion so I'd likely do email invites.
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  • Simky906Simky906 member
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    @STARMOON44‌ While I can't say that I disagree with you there, two of the offenders were FFIL and FMIL and I feel like it may be frowned upon to not feed the IL's. :)
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  • yellowdaisies84yellowdaisies84 member
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    Simky, I'm just wondering if you want to send invitations? How many people are you inviting? If you'd prefer to maybe you could invite everyone word of mouth or over the phone? Just want to make sure you don't feel like you HAVE to worry about written invites, but maybe that's what you want.

    Hope you have a great rehearsal dinner!
    "It's always better when we're together." -Jack Johnson
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  • Simky906Simky906 member
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    @yellowdaisies84‌ We're inviting 65 people to the RD since it's tradition in FI's family to invite all OOT guests. It's a little crazy but we wanted to do that since we're inviting people from as far away as Alaska and Scotland to attend our DC area wedding. So I think an invite of some kind, whether email or paper, will work best for us.
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  • yellowdaisies84yellowdaisies84 member
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    Yeah wow- that's a really big rehearsal dinner! I would send written invites if I were you, too. My rehearsal dinner was really small so we just called everyone. Just wanted to double-check. I'll let others help you with the wording. :)
    "It's always better when we're together." -Jack Johnson
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  • lleblanc33lleblanc33 member
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    We are also inviting about 60 guests... as most people are from OOT and we want to accomodate them. We are calling it a Welcome Dinner. What we did was included a small card in the envelope with details of the Rehearsal Dinner. The wording asked the invited to simply place the included sticker anywhere on the wedding RSVP card if they also wanted to RSVP for the Rehearsal dinner. It was simple, and everyone understood. We now have a head count for the Rehearsal Dinner- and a month until our wedding, which I think is awesome! We have other things going on that evening as well- including an 80's band which will be playing later in the evening and S'MORES- and included information on that part of the evening for the rest of the guests...
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  • yellowdaisies84yellowdaisies84 member
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    lleblanc33, that's so nice for your guests. I'm sure that they will really appreciate you including them in your night-before-the-wedding plans. I think that's so sweet and you were very smart how you did the invites. Good luck with everything!
    "It's always better when we're together." -Jack Johnson
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